Men are extra children

[Autismmummyof2]

My fiancé and I have been together nearly 5 years. We don't live together but he is at mine 90% of the time. I've got 2 DD from a previous relationship, so they stay at their Dad's every fortnight. When they do go, I always go over to fiancé's for that weekend.
So even though he's with me, technically I'm still single parenting. I do everything for DDs and I don't expect him to do anything because they aren't his, however he does help out if I need/ask him to, he never offers.
I haven't had a proper break, since I don't know when, DDs stayed with their Dad for a week at the beginning of the 6 weeks but I had to go to fiancé's Uncles funeral out of town, so I did nothing for myself. Since school has started I've been quite unwell and every weekend I've had off, I've ended up doing something or other because HE wants/needs to. I've got a UTI now and it was my weekend with DDs, so I've had to bear the pain. I asked fiancé to cook dinner yesterday and he fuked off all day and brought my car back with no petrol. Still feeling unwell today I decided to go back to bed for a bit after the school run. This guy woke me up 3 times for various reasons and when I got up pissed he had the cheek to ask me why I'm mad. I didn't say anything. This weekend I want to go away by myself and turn my phone off and reset my brain (or even stay at home without him) but then I'll be accused of cheating.

Help, what do I do?

bin him off and get ex to have kids every weekend. why is it every fortnight??? i get they are your kids and you live them but you need a a break

He should be adding to your life, not making it more difficult !

If dad has every weekend, mum just gets left with morning chaos, school runs, homework and dinner. It can be difficult to have quality time during the week!

Totally agree with binning the fiance off though.

No they’re not.

Yours might be but you haven’t really explained why you think so. It’s not his fault you’ve got kids or have been ill or that his uncle died.

It IS his fault he used your petrol, woke you up and would accuse you of cheating.

Wasting your life with someone who doesn’t make you happy is your fault. You’d be mad to marry someone you’ve never lived with and who adds to your load instead of easing it. So ditch him. Up to you.

I always find these sorts of threads declaring half the population as any one thing a bit daft. Would it make you feel better about being with a crap specimen to think everyone else is too? I doubt it, you’d still be miserable. It’s like you want to think all relationships are unsatisfactory and disappointing to justify staying in yours.

Dump him, be happy. Hope the UTI is over soon, they’re the worst.

It's time to call the engagement off and free up your time and energy for you and your kids! THEY aren't getting the best of you, as you're too worried about him.