Don’t really know why I’m writing this, wondering if anyone has gone through it and got through it.
Please don’t tell me to end the relationship. If it gets to that it gets to that but I don’t think either of us are ready to call it quits.
We have been good and happy for a long period and have listened to each other after a big conversation, after our last argument,in which we laid out our boundaries out to one another. We have respected them since and been more forgiving of one another and regulated better.
We are both strong stubborn characters and previous to this we could argue pretty regularly and nastily. It took a while to get to a point where we could go for long periods without big conflict and sorting it quickly and respectfully but we were doing it and doing it well.
We ended up having a massive argument over the weekend. We both broke all of the rules we set to one another and kept. When we were fighting we kept bringing up between us that the other promised not to do what they were doing. It was all so stupid but it went on longer that it should have and we both said horrible things.
can anyone relate? Or offer reassurance. Has this happened and is there any techniques to get through it. Things have gone almost back to normal after we both apologised but we did both say some things we shouldn’t have and I’m still hurting now, I’m sure he is too.
Has anyone had this before? Long periods of being really happy then a few days of sheer chaos and pain then to go back? If so how did you fix this?
I know it seems from the outside that it’s stupid to stay together but we love each other very deeply and are each others worlds. We are usually wonderful to each other we are just shit and handling conflict.