When did it stop feeling like cheating?

[MamiRita]

I split up from my significant other eight months ago. We had drifted apart for a while. I know it hasn't been that long but I can't help but feel that meeting someone else, even just on a night out, would still feel like I was cheating.
My friend split up with her husband and she immediately went out and downloaded dating apps. No judgement at all, it was what she needed. For me, it just feels wrong still, not because I am anyway inclined to get back with my ex. He was very controlling and paranoid and I wonder if this has been drummed into me that I am 'his'.
I feel attracted to other people but I don't yet feel comfortable proactively searching for connections. When did you guys feel ready to get back out there? Like I said, I'm not desperate too, but wonder if I'll feel like this forever!
For context, we were together since teens, for over twenty years.

Don't worry, you're normal. Stop putting pressure on yourself. It's better for everyone that you date only when you're ready. It takes most people three years (according to research) to feel normal after moving to a new place. So I can imagine that it may take a while to feel comfortable with seeing yourself as single after such a long relationship.

And it's not just feeling single. You'll be used to a certain lifestyle and habits and may not feel ready to change to fit in with someone else's.

If I were you, I'd focus on making friends, getting new hobbies, and having healthy habits. I'm sure there will be changes involved with achieving at least some of those things, and as you make those changes, you may find you're more comfortable with making changes in your personal life.

Also, if you can make sure you have a solid foundation (health, fitness, new hobbies, a social network) then you'll be in much better shape if you date and decide you don't want a particular relationship to go anywhere. You'll be less likely to get into bad relationships. Good luck.

Everyone has their own timeline when it comes to dating after the end of a relationship. Your friend is normal for dating straight away - you're also normal for not being ready after 8 months or longer.
Try not to put any pressure on yourself to "get back out there". Enjoy being single for now - and you'll know when you're ready to try dating again.