Complicated

[magicallySparkle88]

I'm not sure how to take these messages. I haven't responded for hours.
I'm shocked. I bend over backwards for this man. All I want is to feel loved and be intimate. I feel deprived of that. My gut is telling me something is amiss.
He moved out on his own accord back in June.
Reeled me back in with incredible sex. Then turns sour. Is closed off.

Block him, delete his number and connection you have with him on social media. He's a nutter, and you don't need the drama. Tbh, it's not complicated at all, don't feel you need to make it so.

Thank you. I will. Iv been with him for 13 years. These messages are brutal. Do you feel it's emotionally abuse?

13 years??? Jesus, I assumed this was a new thing. In that case my love, its even worse. Noone should be sending a stream of abusive crap like that to their partner of 13 years!

I feel Iv been in something called Stockholm syndrome. He left due to me not being intimate with him. Then I began to miss him after few days. He spammed me with messages, saying we can still have sex. It was amazing! Then bam! Cold, distant and on his terms after I admittedly messaged him with love quotes and declaring my new found love for him.

Block him now

No one needs this crap in their lives

You deserve someone who treats you with respect

He sounds abusive. Honestly block him. I‘m sorry. I really am.

Who's Rory?

Run. Sounds like the old darvo mind games. God people are shit. I mean that's unless you have been sexually harassing him, also seems like he is trying to shame you.

Our son.x

Iv been thinking back, it sounds like I have been harassing him. But all it was, was me asking if he's in the mood, didn't make it a big deal, but it was gutting. Because it was pretty much constant at the start then nothing. It was like to reeled me back in and controlled the situation. Always on his terms.

Don't respond.
Just ignore.
He wants a response otherwise he could have ignored your messages.

Is he living with you? If not, block and file for divorce

No he isn't. He's currently living in his caravan

Is he having some sort of episode. These messages sound unhinged

It does make me question. It's pretty shocking to say he's repulsed by me, thats what hurt. I'd understand if I did something really wrong, but I can't think of anything other than wanting to be close to him and being intimate.
I mean he's said twice Iv showered. Then before I see him, he says I'm not in the mood, Iv made all that effort for nothing

Don't let him lure you in with the promise of sex only for him to insult you and make you feel like shit. Let him stay in his caravan.

You want affection but you won't get it from someone who calls you repulsive and is already getting in your head.

Get shot. Trust me - I put up with similar for 20 years

You deserve better. Put yourself in control and tell him you won't stand to be spoken to like that or treated like shit. You are worth more.

Thank you. It's gotten me down for weeks and weeks. Even worse when I'm on my monthly's. He makes out I'm too much to the point he threatened to end things.
It's a vicious web! I'm so angry at the moment. Iv removed him. Haven't responded to these messages. I didn't even trigger that kind of reaction. Just came out of know where

Don't reply to him. At all. Don't bite. Would it really be so bad if things did end? He's already removed himself from your home.

Such an unattractive trait in a grown man who sulks like a child and strops like a teenager.

If he's choosing to act like a child then treat him like one.

You shouldn't allow anyone to speak to you like that.

He's made his choice to leave and you should end it permanently, no more contact, that's it.

Have you actually asked him if he wants the relationship to end?

It sounds like a selfish fucker's tactic to get his own way, you put bounderies in place, deny him sex and he leaves you, you then pine for him and he enjoys you begging him for his affection and company.

Pretty common tactic for abusers to keep you putting up with this shit.

The only way it ends is when you end contact totally, there is no winning or making him realise he hurts you, he knows, it's intentional, to get you back in the box and for your opinions and wants to never be met.

Keep away from him, he ain't nice.

Thank you. When he left, he was still obsessed with me, didn't want it to end. Which is why he begged me to come out and have sex.
Deep down I knew it was wrong, like sleeping with the devil. I knew there would be consequences. But still got suckered in. My emotions were played with.
I know I need to cut him off. But still questioning if it's my fault for going on and on about wanting sex. He knew my period was coming up, kept telling me I'm showering, but then said he wasn't in the mood. Then the messages came

The main I ask is the relevance of your son to this argument. Why did he bring him into it? It seems very emotionally manipulative to imply you're somehow interfering with or not helping the relationship with his son (the complete meaning of the inference isn't clear to the limited context).

He had seen our son in the shop with friend.
To which is messaged me. I also asked if he had seen a neighbour also in there. Asked him why he was being patronising towards me. That's when these messages started