He is a procrastinator

[Hazelnus]

My boyfriend is getting on my nerves. He complains about his health ailments and being overweight yet wastes time on social media. He has a You Tube channel which is unsuccessful but keeps making videos for it daily. He spends lots of time on Instagram tries to get lots of followers and liking strangers photos. I will message him in an evening and he ignores my message to focus on Instagram and You Tube and replies the next day. He doesn't even make money from it. I am happy for him to have hobbies but it just feels I get the bad parts of him and get ignored while everyone else gets the good parts. He even said the other day I deserve better so why does he think it is ok to behave that way?

You can’t change his behaviour….. you can only change how you respond to it though (your behaviour).

What do you want to do about this?

@Hazelnus
If it is truly making you unhappy, you should leave. If you then miss him, you can experience the good parts of him online.

Why is someone like this your bf at all?. Why is your relationship bar so low here to be accepting of this from him?. He does this because he can.

He is right though on one point and that is you do deserve better. Sadly currently you seem not to believe this for your own self.

Do you respect him?
does he have a day job he makes money from and is motivated for?
I have to be honest from your description he doesn’t sound like a great catch and doesn’t sound like he is prioritising you.
I think you can do better!

He smokes 20 cigarettes a day and gets migraines as a result then says he has no money. He struggles with his leg but refuses to do the physio exercises given to him by the physio. Then runs to the doctors every few weeks complaining. He won't help himself.