My relationship has never been without issues but I’ve very recently found out my partner has been messaging another woman behind my back and hiding the messages, as far as I know it was only messages but it definitely wasn’t friendship he was looking for I’m sure of that. Anyway, he already knew my stance on cheating and that I would never tolerate it so this hasn’t come as a surprise to him but he is now going to make this even worse for me by making me be the one that leaves because he is refusing to, just feels like a final kick in the teeth that it’s me that has to struggle and leave with my kids. I’ve had constant emotional blackmail and manipulation since I told him it was over, if I take my kids I’ll be punishing them and destroying their lives etc. I think he fails to realise that it’s him that has broken this family up not me and I feel like he’s going to make this as horrible as possible for me right up to the last second. How anybody can do this to another person is just beyond me, like the cheating wasn’t enough it’s like he’s taking pleasure in kicking me while I’m down. I don’t really have anyone to talk to but would love to hear from anyone else who has been forced to be the one to leave and any advice for doing it.