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Threesome

15 replies

Ghost777 · 01/10/2023 13:11

Hello everyone,

I have been with my Boyfriend for about 7 years now, and for the most part it’s a great relationship.

With that said, I have an extremely high sex drive, and have been wanting to have a threesome for a long time now, to try and spice things up a bit.

He says that would interest him, but when I try and plan something, he gets very angry and accuses me of all sorts.

I am not sure what to do, because I really don’t want to cheat on him, but I am craving this.

Any advice?

x

OP posts:
Soubriquet · 01/10/2023 13:14

He doesn’t sound like he could cope with a 3some and if you go ahead, you will end your relationship

HermioneWeasley · 01/10/2023 13:15

What’s the problem you’re trying to solve - do you want more sex with him but your sex drives d9nt match up, or do you want to have sex with other people?

Thesearmsofmine · 01/10/2023 13:18

He sounds like he likes it as a fantasy but not as a reality. That’s his choice and you can either accept it and continue your relationship or split with him and go and do as you wish.

CirceIsMyHomegirl · 01/10/2023 13:18

End the relationship, have a threesome, find a new relationship that suits you better.

NotObligedToArgueWithStrangers · 01/10/2023 13:18

Sounds like he's interpreting your desire for a threesome as you wanting him to give you permission to have sex with someone else. Is that what he's got a problem with? If he's not happy to do it, then you have to respect his wishes. If the truth is that he's not enough for you, be honest and let him go. Don't cheat, there's no justification for that.

BarelyCoping123 · 01/10/2023 13:24

Leave the poor guy and have your threesome elsewhere. Neither of you will be happy otherwise

Opentooffers · 01/10/2023 13:24

3somes are more a niche urge than to do with sex drive, not to everyone's taste and it would seem not to your BF's taste. Are you after MMF or FFM? If its the former, it's understandable how that could be seen as cheating. He probably didn't think you were serious when you first mentioned it. If he sees it as cheating, it's not going to happen, so it's up to you to decide what to do about it and assess how important it is to you.

LargeglassofRosePlease · 01/10/2023 13:27

Poor bloke.

Let him go … and go off and sow your oats with other numerous partners, but don’t try to make him do something that he isn’t keen on and then get angry about it when he doesn’t want to.

BrandNewTitsAndHusband · 01/10/2023 13:28
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What's high libido got to do with dying to try a threesum?

RaisedByHedgehogs · 01/10/2023 13:29

If he’s not into the idea, he’s not into it. Either end the relationship to pursue your fantasy or stay and don’t.

C1N1C · 01/10/2023 13:37

I agree, as @Opentooffers said, MMF is way different than MFF. Most men would pounce at the opportunity of MFF because they get two girls and it's agreed... but MMF just looks like you want to have sex with other men (in his eyes).

Bobbotgegrinch · 01/10/2023 13:44

Sounds like he's not interested, in which case you'd be a twat to keep pushing it. If it's something you can't live without, then this isn't the relationship for you.

josuk · 01/10/2023 15:16

How about a 4some instead. This way both of you could get something out of it….🤣
If this is a genuine post that is…

BeenThere0 · 31/10/2023 16:58

@Ghost777 Let him pick (or at least suggest) the other participant. Have you tried that??

TurnerP · 31/10/2023 17:05

Would he be happy to watch you with another woman without him having to involved?

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