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ABIU about topless pics of his ex

37 replies

rudibee · 01/10/2023 11:42

Hi. So I saw photos of his ex naked in bed and lots of topless ones.
I understand he has a past and there would be photos of her or them together. But am I being unreasonable about getting upset he still has naked and topless ones? I feel this has made me feel differently about him, like it's a bit wrong and disrespectful to me.

OP posts:
Tonight1 · 02/10/2023 07:17

How much money did he steal? And how did you find out?

He's not a good person, it's better to be alone than with someone like this. It will be a never ending chain of him looking up nude/semi nude pics like an obsession.

GilbertMarkham · 02/10/2023 07:20

Streamorwatchlive · 01/10/2023 22:17

He also follows a lot of girls on social media. And I mean a lot. Girls he doesn't know and the typical social media models. He would go mad if I did the same with men. I'm getting really confused about this relationship

I’ll help your confusion. He’s a cunt, and you’re being taken for a fool. Why does he make you feel confused.

This.

No decent relationship has double standards like this.

Also he should have deleted the pics of his ex.

Also, he's stolen from you (?!!?)

Get rid of him.

He is not relationship material.

Original poster
rudibee · 02/10/2023 07:22

Thanks everyone for your replies. It's so hard when an emotion like love is involved. You just can't see stuff clearly. Hes stolen about £600 in total. Using my bank card and transferring money to his his own account. He usually spends it on drugs or gambling.
After reading back all of this- WTF am I doing? I'm never gonna be able to change him am I? Not even with all the love in the world.
His broken my heart quite literally.

OP posts:
RedAndWhiteCarnations · 02/10/2023 07:40

rudibee · 01/10/2023 11:51

He also follows a lot of girls on social media. And I mean a lot. Girls he doesn't know and the typical social media models. He would go mad if I did the same with men. I'm getting really confused about this relationship.

I’d have much more issues with that than photos if his ex.

RedAndWhiteCarnations · 02/10/2023 07:44

rudibee · 01/10/2023 21:43

@AFieldGuideToTrees he has also stolen money from me. I guess I'm just trying to get validation that he's a bad egg. I dunno. I'm hurting and so then i distort things.... I feel like I'm going mad feeling this way!

Ok….

So he is a sleaze and steals….

Are you sure this is a man you are in love with? Or are you in love with an image if him/what you’d hope he would be? Because I’m struggling to see what there is to love there.

And no LOVE doesn’t conquer it all and nor does it make such a man a decent man. If it was, we would know by now (seeing the number if women who carried on holding men like this hoping their love would make it all better)

Namechangeforthisone2023 · 02/10/2023 08:49

AFieldGuideToTrees · 01/10/2023 17:14

Put this one back, OP, he doesn't respect his ex, you, or I'd guess any women..

But expects you to respect him.

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Agree

Namechangeforthisone2023 · 02/10/2023 08:51

Just read the update about money too, get rid!!
this man will wear you down to a shell of yourself get out now and block !!

Trainplan · 02/10/2023 08:51

I think the old photos not having been deleted is much less of an issue than him following loads of women but being furious if you did the same.

He sounds awful.

LightSpeeds · 02/10/2023 08:55

Drugs, gambling, stealing, topless pics of his ex...

And you need to ask if he's a bad egg!?He's rotten to the bloody core!

Find your self-esteem OP!

QueenBitch666 · 02/10/2023 08:57

Dump him. He sounds like an absolute scrote

SamW98 · 02/10/2023 09:29

So he’s a pervy sleazy thieving druggy who still knocks one out over photos of his ex yet expects you to be Mother Theresa?

Wtf are you doing with this lowlife scumbag? Run as fast and as far as possible then take out from men to work on your self esteem, respect and dignity.

Sorry if that sounds harsh but please stop accepting shitty men

FortheBeautyoftheEarth · 02/10/2023 12:55

Yeah, that's not cool. At all.

It's not fair on his ex and it's not fair on you. I suppose the only kind of way it might be ok if you have agreed some kind of really sexually open relationship where anything goes...but in general it's just a bit ick to hang on to a naked photo of someone who probably doesn't realise you still have it. Just no.

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