It's another old etiquette one

[Pippipumpkin]

Sorry if this has been asked before.
Currently on old sporadically.
I matched with a guy this weekend and exchanged a few messages. In one of the messages he sent, he said something about contact with his kids in a tone that immediately raised some alarm bells. I don't really have a desire to carry on the conversation as i think the comment indicates a poor attitude to women and mothers and a bit of a victim mentality on his part.
So that is the context of my dilemma. If you start chatting to someone and quickly realise it hasn't got legs within the first 48 hours, is it ok to just stop responding? It feels that saying you don't feel it has the potential to go anywhere is vague and non-specific, and I don't want to have to justify myself beyond that to a stranger.

What does everyone do?

I personally would say something like, not feeling the connection but all the best and good bye then block them.

This early on I just stop replying
You don't owe him anything

I agree with solice84 and ShakeVigorouslyNow that it's fine to stop replying or (more polite) to say that you're not feeling a connection, but personally, I'd do him and other, less savvy, women a favour and say "wow, that comment is a bit troubling. I don't think continuing this is a good idea." Then block him.

See if he has a few of my photos or knows stuff about me I would hate to have a weirdo stalk me it would freak me out and has happened that a guy then tried to reach me through social media, another turned up at my student residence as he put two and two about my location.. so I only ghost when there's literally nothing not even a face pic or real name and location but when they have more info and can find me I'd rather I've left them within explanation. It's true stalkers can ignore what you say anyway but in my case the other guys thought I just lost their number or something happened instead of being intentional ghosting. Rejection can make men angry but so is disappearing without anything. I wouldn't tell the guy why opbut I'd just say not feeling it.

I agree.

Sorry me again! Even though I'd be tempted to tell him why I've lost interest I found that such guys never truly get it they either argue with me about it or just learn to hide it better which means the next poor woman will have longer to find out about him. I don't feel we should clue men up or give them tips to be better because they should know this by themselves or continue like this so they are more easily identified and out themselves to women quickly. It's a different context if a friend was asking me and I said we'll hold back on disclosing this but for a random gut I think it's safer for other women to let him carry on as he is. It's not our job to fix them. It just and it makes them harder to spot and better at deceiving women if they did take the advice.

@ShakeVigorouslyNow I agree with your last post and think if I challenged him I don't think it would end well. You can almost tell he is new to old though due to the early overshare.

I dont tend to give out much in terms of personal information, don't have Linkedin and my sm is locked down, so hopefully the most they know is my first (very generic) name, age and city.

Ok I will just send a brief, sorry not feeling it/all the best message and move on.

So I sent a message as above, and got a ranty message back about nobody wanting to spend time to get to know people etc etc.

He seems quite bitter so I think I made the right decision.

I'm sorry pippi, what a wanker! Im always hot on the block button press it as soon as i send the last message. Hope you find someone nice soon.

Sounds like the most civilised way to do it. Very generic but polite.

This is why I would have just stopped responding. This early on there really is no need to send any message. Conversation fizzle out all the time no need to send messages explaining to someone you haven’t even met.