Beyond my scope of comprehension

[Hopelesslyhurt]

So I mentioned in my other post about my wife's behavior and how she'll spend all day and into the night on discord talking to this other guy. I've in many ways tried to express how much hurt she's caused me, and the damage to the relationship. I think/ hope I'm really dont with her. But short of packing into a homeless shelter I'm stuck still living with her for now. She does this right infront of me, or rather next to me. Then still tries to call me baby and baby, ask me the get her things or run to the store. After 12 years its such a habit I find it difficult to say no. I'm ready to put my head through the wall, not really because then I'd have to pay to fix that. I just don't understand her total disregard for me our family or the life we shared. I'm at a total loss on how to cope in the mean time and not go crazy, and stop hoping she'll pull her head out of her ass

If you've decided you definitely want to break up you need housing advice. When someone needs space they ask the party at fault to leave or they go to a hotel, rent an Airbnb, stay with friends or family for a couple of days. You're married so your housing rights are not to be ignored and homeless shelters might not even be accepting you. You can post a new thread on housing rights or you can call Shelter housing charity or Citizens Advice.

Have you contacted the other man?

Thanks for the tip shake, I feel like a fool admiring this but I'm not 100% ready to give up yet. I really don't know n ow what I'm holding on to, she's not the woman that loved me back. That person would never treat me like this.

Rose ~ I've not contacted the guy she she's been spending all her time talking to. He knows she is married, and continues to pursue her. I'm usually not an aggressive person but I don't see that ending anywhere short of me requesting his address. I dont even know how I ended up here, at 42 years old I've got less confidence and direction than I did at 30. Its like I've slipped running backwards and can't find anything to grab on to

What would contacting the guy serve? I think it's a humiliating idea. If its not him it would've been someone else and if this guy leaves there will be another guy. The problem is between you two.
If you don't know what to do and if it's possible I would have a few days away from her to work our my next steps.