I think I will be single forever

[Cherty19]

I recently broke up from my fiance, we had been together for five and a half years. I've just turned 28 and feel like I will forever be left on the shelf too grow old and more bitter.everyone seems to have found happiness so easily. I have a DC 7 years of age who I love but I have failed to give him a proper family, I was with his father for two and half years spilting up when he was one years of age, his father was abusive and I had to get a molestation order after we split it felt like a weight lifted off I was only 22 and then,shortly after I met my recent ex we never had any children together because he didn't want anymore due to bad past experiences with his ex and contact with the children he had with her, we had a lot of ups and downs but he was the most I've ever loved anyone, he battled depression badly and had communication issues the relationship crumbled and looking back he was always changing his mind about us but even so we were engaged four years ago, but we never came close to planning a wedding, I wanted a baby with him but he Said we would have to go our separate ways because we wanted diffent things he was very cruel and insulted the life we had and where we lived and now has moved out alone I lashed out and said some terrible things which I regret. I want him back now its all became too real I have few friends left after being in such an isolating relationship the first time and the few I have are all loved up with there prefect families and lives which they did young. I don't see how I will ever meet anyone again, i don't even have a decent career just a job and now I'm pushing 30 And a single mum in a council flat hardly a Catch don't know how my life became such a shambles getting really depressed and lonely sorry for the rant.

Me too, except I’m 34.

At least you have a DC, who I’m sure brings a lot of joy to your life.

Yes thank goodness,

I was younger than you when I got divorced! you're way too young to be worried about being forever alone

a lot of people at this age are at the stage of having just left their "big , shitty life lesson" relationship

similarly, there is a lot of people who don't have shiny careers while pushing 30 - some are still in training, and most of us will only ever have "a job" - and that's fine too!

My best friend got married to a guy a month before I fell pregnant with DS2. They'd already been together years. DS2 is 7 now and in that time she was married, divorced, met another guy and has 2 kids with him 3 and 1. She was at 30 during the divorce totally convinced she'd never find a guy or have kids. Any thing can happen OP

Hi @Cherty19
I turned 40 yrs old, was single and no kids (really wanted kids!), lots of time wasters in my life and heartbreak. I did finally meet my now DH and went on to have 2 kids. Agree with above post, anything can happen. Don't give up hun, happier times ahead xx

I don't see how I will ever meet anyone again, i don't even have a decent career just a job and now I'm pushing 30 And a single mum in a council flat hardly a Catch don't know how my life became such a shambles getting really depressed and lonely sorry for the rant.

This is what stands out to me in your post. You write so negatively about yourself.

But, in reality, what you are describing is that you are a woman in her late twenties who has a very stable housing situation and who supports herself and her child through employment. That is not a negative description in any way.

You can decide you want to change things. Is there a ‘career’ that you want to pursue? Or do you want to focus on building your support system more?

You are young. Honestly. You have loads of time and you can work towards the life you want - or (and there is nothing wrong with this) you might decide that you’re doing pretty well just as you are and don’t want to change anything.

Your worth and success is NOT measured by being in a relationship with a man. Indeed, focusing on yourself and building your life, with your child, is the best way to find the people who should be in it. That might be a future relationship - but one that fits you and your needs.

I know it’s hard, but try not to be so harsh about yourself and your life.

Didn't read it all. You are young. I'm 46 and 2 years single.

You have nothing to worry about. Just make good choices and don't waste your time with the wrong people.