Hello, I have posted on here a few times now since going NC with my parents and older sister. I have maintained some communication via my youngest sis who has just sent me this email a few days ago.
Just a brief recap...
I went NC last Sept with my dad and older sis. Maintained a few more months with my mum, now NC with her. Now maintain occasional msgs with my younger sis. I have difficulty cutting off my youngest sis, as in my opinion, she is the most vulnerable to their abuse. In her heart , because I basically took her under my wing when I was 6 yrs old in order to protect her (I now believe this was a subconscious action on my part )from the harrowing chronic domestic abuse that took part between our parents, I think she trusts me and KNOWS and UNDERSTANDS, why I have finally had the courage to leave. I think she wants to leave too but sadly she is more damaged and can't bring herself to accept how cruel and manipulative our parents have been, and still are..particularly our mother, to all 3 of us children.
I would like to know what ppl make of this email. I dont actually trust what she says in it. Many thanks.
I would like to bring up a subject that is a sensitive issue given the situation.
Mum & Dad ask me for help and favours for all sorts of things on a regular basis which I am happy to do but as these needs and requests become more frequent I am finding it harder to manage them all given my other commitments. I have asked (older sister's name) to come to London more often to help which she has agreed to do.
One of the things that they have asked for fequently is to go to the tip as they are starting to clear out the house. As they have never thrown a single item away you can imagine that this is a monster task. Even with them clearing out some old gadgets, books or clothing etc it will not even touch the sides of what needs to be done.
This has got me to thinking. (Older Sister's name) & I are trustees and therefore in charge of organising the sale of the house. However there will be an incredible amount to sort out with the house once they pass. It would be really nice to know that you will be ready and willing to help in clearing out the house, viewings if necessary or whatever other tasks there may be. I think it is fair that we are all responsible for these chores as they are parents to us all and we will all inherit an equal share of the profit. Regardless of what you do with your share things need to be taken care of and I would like to know that I have your support going forward so that when the inevitable time comes we do not have to have this discussion when grieving.
This is a burden for us all and I hope you understand the need to also think practically and be organised to minimise stress at a difficult time.
Lots of love as always
(Younger sister's name)xxx