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Original poster

I think it's time to block for my peace of mind

6 replies

chocolateaddict231 · 30/09/2023 15:11

Hi everyone,
I wrote another post about wishing to tell a man from my recent past that I miss him but all of the advice was to walk away. I realise in order to walk away I probably need to block because I keep checking to see if he's been in touch.

A little background.....I ended it a few months ago after finding a verification number for a dating app on his phone and I generally felt like an outsider in his life but goodness I miss him! We message occasionally, originally it was him trying to apologise but now it's mostly me messaging him and getting cold replies (I'd guess he has met someone else).

Would you send a message before blocking explaining why you're blocking?

Thanks! x

OP posts:
ConnieTucker · 30/09/2023 15:13

No!!!! Delete all his messages. Delete your call list. Block him. Then delete his number. Fgs move on.

Original poster
chocolateaddict231 · 30/09/2023 15:14

I wish I didn't know his number off by heart but unfortunately I do so blocking seems the only way forward

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tootrueblue · 30/09/2023 15:16

As @ConnieTucker says, delete number and block. I mean this in as gentle a way as possible, but you need to get a hold of yourself. Would you not advise your best friend in the same position to move on and cease contact? What possible benefit is there to you to keep communicating with him?

thatwassociopathic · 30/09/2023 15:17

You're just fishing for more contact...any contact. You need to accept this is fucked and no amount of cold messaging from him is going to make you feel any better. Take control of the situation and block with no further contact. Then go off and work on your self esteem so you no longer need validation from this player

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chocolateaddict231 · 30/09/2023 15:19

tootrueblue · 30/09/2023 15:16

As @ConnieTucker says, delete number and block. I mean this in as gentle a way as possible, but you need to get a hold of yourself. Would you not advise your best friend in the same position to move on and cease contact? What possible benefit is there to you to keep communicating with him?

He started therapy 'for us' when I ended things so I guess I have desired some type of miracle where the apologies actually led to him changing

OP posts:
Summer2424 · 30/09/2023 15:20

Hi @chocolateaddict231
Sorry you're going through this hun xx
You don't have to block him.
I don't block anyone i've been with. Its a weird way of looking at it but it makes me determined to find my happiness and i love those moments when i can update my profile pic and think finally i've moved on and i'm happy! Hope this time passes for you and always know happier days are ahead ❤

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