Meet the Other Phone. Child-safe in minutes.

Meet the Other Phone.
Child-safe in minutes.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Relationships

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

Husband is such a negative Nigel

6 replies

newmama311 · 30/09/2023 13:16

My husband finds a way to make every fun family event a little bit of a downer.
This morning we were out for a brunch: and our baby knocked over his san pellegrino to which he was swearing and saying he just wants to enjoy breakfast without having to clean up after his family. It was embarrassing and stopped me in my tracks for enjoying myself. He was moaning about the music in there too. Just moans about everything.

I baked him a pie the other day with a puff topping, he made a point of saying it can't be called a pie cos it's not fully encased (he cooks a lot for the family so he's not being too cheeky here but again another way to burst any positive bubble he can)

At the airport the passports were with a different family member easily rectified and he was shouting and swearing loudly about it and it was embarrassing.

The drinks at the hotel are in plastic cups; not good enough.

Etc etc etc I'm getting really concerned is this my life now: fun thoughtful and expensive things we work hard for , not going to be enjoyable

OP posts:
AttilaTheMeerkat · 30/09/2023 13:24

What are you getting out of this relationship now?.

This will be your life if you stay with this man. I would think about how life would be like for you without him and his associated negativity in it day to day.

He is a fun sponge. He does this too because he can and he’s learnt it works for him. He is never happy unless he is unhappy.

RogueFemale · 30/09/2023 20:27

Was he like this before you married him? I presume not. First step, have an honest conversation expressing how you feel.

TemporarilyshyAF · 30/09/2023 20:30

Is this a recent change? Is he very stressed or depressed? He needs to learn to regulate his behaviour and emotions or I don't think you should stay with him. I'd make an attempt to find out WTF this is all about first but if no change don't subject yourself and the kids to this misery.

Millybob · 30/09/2023 20:34

Men like this don't ever improve with age.

Crushed23 · 30/09/2023 22:07

Millybob · 30/09/2023 20:34

Men like this don't ever improve with age.

Quite.

They get worse.

Ibizafun · 01/10/2023 22:10

My dad is like this.. always was, never changed. My poor mum really is a saint. I have to fight every day to be different as I don't want to subject my positive dh to it!

New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Swipe left for the next trending thread