No contact with my narcissistic mother for years - here’s what she’s says about it

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This may be of interest to others who are NC with a narc mother or thinking about going NC. I have been NC with my mother for about 14 years mainly to emotionally protect myself from her poison.

My BFs mum met her out and about and apparently I think I am too good for her now. 😀

Obviously being a narc she is never going to blame herself or say we had a falling out. Luckily my BF and her mother know the truth.

It’s such a change to when people used to tell me when they would met her and she would brag away about me and my accomplishments (reflection of her amazing parenting!) yet to me there was never one well done I was always up myself for having a university education.

Best thing I ever did is go NC it cut if her power and her feed of poison. When she started on my own children enough was enough, I built my own little amazing family that she’s not a part of. Break the cycle.

Good for you... I had to do the same!
The author Peg Streep I'd very good for exactly this purpose.

Similar situation here with a close family member. I accept that she goes around telling anyone who will listen how terrible we are and it's all my fault. I don't care. I am comfortable in my truth.

It's not surprising they would do that. They are lashing out. They probably feel hurt as they probably loved you. Even if they were flawed

@Treesar with respect they are hurt and lashing out and probably loved me? You have no idea what it is like to be abused physically and emotionally by the person who is supposed to live and protect you the most.

When I was in my mid 20s I didn’t want children because of the relationship with my mother when I did have them I couldn’t believe how I felt about them, I loved them so much and would die for them. Couldn’t believe a “mother” would do some of the things she did.

I am NC with my mother. Shes a narcissistic internalised misogynist. She plays mind games ..i had awful childhood. She was trying to keep me down by slating everything i did. She never celebrated my achievements or acknowledged them. Mentally abusive. At times physical. I have made my peace with myself when she dies. Shes a hateful, jealous women whom i do not want contact with. Toxic woman