I don’t know how to leave him

[beaumama]

I don’t know what to fucking do

I’ve tried to leave him so many fucking times but he’s cries and I mean sobs like nothing fucking normal he be’s in TEARS

He was the best boyfriend in the whole world and then recently started to become a pathological liar and I can’t take it anymore. Yesterday did it for me, I don’t want to get into it but basically I caught him out in a lie and he denied and denied and DENIED then sweared on our child’s life a lie. He later admitted to the thing he lied about.

I took him back last night but tonight I can’t stop crying about the whole situation.

not one bit of me trusts him. But I also love him so much and don’t know what I would ever do without him.

I know deep down I need to leave him. Even family has told me, but it’ll break me and I don’t think I’ll ever be fully happy again.

I need help leaving him , I just can’t take the crying he does it sends me mad and then I feel super bad. He also acts as if he’ll end his life he doesn’t say he will but the words I know that’s what he’s getting at.

I need comfort I’m so upset.

It's very simple. You have a child. It is abusive to force the child to live with drama and histrionics. If you're routinely upset because of lying, if you're constantly threatening to leave and then he's sobbing about it, you are abusing that child.

You need to provide a stable home life for the child. Stop indulging in drama.

You don't trust him. Your family doesn't think he's good for you. You need to make a plan (where to live, etc) and leave or make him leave. If you leave, do it while he's out and then call one of his friends/relatives to be with him when he finds out. If you want him to leave, you should involve the police or family/friends who can protect you and/or him if he loses it.

Make a plan and leave. You do not have the luxury of indulging in drama when you have chosen to have a child. The child needs stability.

You know the arsehole stuff he does to you? That's the real him.

The crying and love bombing isn't, it's purely a show to reel you back in.

Just go. Why does crying mean you can’t? Lots of people cry when their partner leaves them. Be respectful, kind and firm and go

The crying is a lie … like every other lie.

Leave him and be happy. Life is too short for this shit!

Tell him he deserves an Oscar - and show him the door.

My ex husband did this, and faked panic attacks every time I tried to leave,

He was an alcoholic, spent hours a night chatting up women online and tried to sleep with my best friend.

I got to breaking point, I remember that night/day like it was yesterday, I found out he tried to sleep with my best friend, he then tried to get into bed with me and pushed the dog off onto the floor, that was my final straw, he faked a panic/heart attack, I called him ambulance. They left him there cos he was clearly faking.

The next day. When he followed me into a room crying and looking sad. I walked out, I did this all day, from 8am until he finally left at 6pm. It was draining and horrible,

But, you know once that door was closed and he was gone. I felt a HUGE sense of relief and like a big tonne of bricks had been lifted off me.

@beaumama
Are you " fully happy "? You say that if you leave you ma nevertheless be fully happy again. However, you do not seem to be anywhere near even remotely happy now. So what exactly do you have to lose by leaving him now?