What does ’romantic’ mean (to you)?

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I’m an idiot, that’s why I am asking a stupid question like this.

But when people write they are / their husband is very romantic or that they want romance….
What does that actually mean and entail?

If it’s just an euphemism to sex, then no need to say it.

To me it’s when a person does something just for you, that takes effort on their part, when they didn’t have to; because they love you.
My DP makes me breakfast every morning. He’ll make up a thermos of tea and drive us to my favourite beauty spot. He organised a friend crocheting me a gorgeous blanket for when I’m working night shifts and it’s cold - using colours that reminded him of where we had our first kiss.
All romantic, to me.

Can women be ‘romantic’ to men

From personal experience I would say No - women certainly like to do romantic things, nice evening out, weekend away etc, and expect men to be romantic towards them, but I’ve never had a woman actually do something romantic for me.

My DH also brings me tea in bed every morning, he also fills my drinks to go cup with coffee each time I leave the house to drive DC to college. He scrapes ice off of my windscreen for me when it's freezing out, often in a huge heart shape. He rubs cream into my feet and makes me a hot water bottle for my shoulder because I have arthritis in it and it's worse when cold. He takes me to the cinema to see things like Downton Abbey even though he is not keen on it. Last time we went on holiday over my birthday he arranged for the hotel to put champagne and flowers in our room as a surprise for me. He has an ISA he pays into monthly, he jokingly calls my ring fund. Each time it accumulates much over £1k he buys me a new ring because I love rings. He compliments me often and always asks where I'd like to go on holidays and is happy when he is making me happy. I sometimes read threads on some husband's and partners who are abusive pricks expecting their wives to work full time, pay for their DC on their own and do all the housework, and I'm just so grateful I have DH who loves and adores me.

It's just little thoughtful things he does for me......

E.g. we got caught in a sudden downpour the other days, ended up running in the rain across the road and in to a pub. Soaked. We both wear glasses so first thing he did was to take mine and clean them and dry them so I could see (he knows I get a bit panicky when it's busy/full of people and would be worse without my glasses)

He loves peas - I hate them. He always makes dinner without peas even though he'd prefer to have peas

If I'm working on a Saturday and staying at his he will purposely make sure as soon as I sit down there's a special drink for me

Of course. This week it's DH's birthday. I bought him a watercolour of the place where he grew up, and which he loved. He' ll be thrilled. To me that is romantic.

@ShippingNews isn’t that just thoughtful and kind though? You could have done the same act for your mother / sister / friend and it wouldn’t be considered romantic?

It's the same for both sexes. Kindness and respect are not romantic but the bare minimums.
I remember my husband's favourite snacks and buy them if they happen to be in stock.
He gets me cute things just because like a cat necklace.