Is this Gaslighting? Or have my experiences made my views skewed?

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Man falls out with teenage Children because he thinks they have used and lost something of his, gets them looking all over the house for said item, they insist they haven't had item, man goes to wife for back up which she sticks up for the DC, he then falls out with DW.

Man finds item in his car and hides item in the house for kids ro find and take the blame.

views?

Not sure what to call it. He certainly got it wrong. Was it done on purpose? Probably not.

I'm not sure that's gaslighting. That's just an a-hole who won't admit he's wrong. Gaslighting is a bit more manipulative than this.

Sounds like it to me, horrible behaviour

Yes it's GL, he was wrong but rather than own up he's trying to hide his mistake and make his DC believe they've actually lost the item. Its manipulation.

Gaslighting? No. Framing an innocent party? Yes. Still a nasty thing to do.

I think it would be gaslighting if he'd hidden it in the first place, but as it is he's just an abusive bastard.

Of course it's gaslighting. It's making children believe they didn't look properly and lost the item in the first place! Making them question themselves!

How many angels dance in the head of your pin? Does it really matter? But I’d say it started out as an abuse of the household and turned in to gaslighting after the piece was found and rehidden.

Yep. This.

Well he’s a bully isn’t he

My dad did that sort of thing all the time. He was and still is very unorganised. He would regularly loose his keys/ wallet/ pen and scream at us kids for hours and make us look for it as we must have moved it/ played with it. When he found exactly where he left it there was never an apology

Well I don’t know if gaslighting is the correct term but it’s certainly very unpleasant behaviour.

Let me guess, Dh can’t ever admit he’s wrong and thinks he’s bloody perfect. Non?