I've been with DP for 11years now. So as not to drip feed here is a back story. DP won't marry me as he is wealthy (I have always worked until having our baby 6 months ago) but never to the extent he earns. DP has undiagnosed mental health issues and also anger issues which stem from a traumatic childhood. He has hit me approximately 6x in our relationship over the years, most recently when I was 4months pregnant. We have been arguing a lot recently as he hasn't stepped up at all since the baby was born despite professing how much he loves dc. His reason is that he pays for everything and therefore that is his contribution and mine is to look after dc.
We didn't have sex after I found out I was pregnant when I was 3months as I had some bleeding and now I'm 6months pp he still won't as I haven't lost my baby weight, I was a size 8 before and now I'm a 12. For all the dv my DP has always maintained that he would never cheat, he never goes out except to work, doesn't drink or take drugs and is actually pretty vanilla. He has never slept around either which is why after our most recent argument I'm floored when he told me he slept with a prostitute whilst I was pregnant he said he did it out of spite and is glad as it now means it is the end of the relationship now I know. His mum, my mum and dad, his best friend all believe he hasn't done this but it's just another thing he's saying to try and push me away whilst in one of his mental episodes. His behaviour, the story etc also don't add up as he says he cheated when I was 4months pg then 8months. For reference his dad cheated on his mum with a prostitute when she was pregnant so I feel this story is just a recycled one. He knows the last straw is cheating for me (I know it should have been the violence). I feel sick as I now have to live with him as I have nowhere to go now. He is selling his house and has said once it is sold then I can have some money to move out with the baby. He said last night he knows I won't leave anyway. I'm not with him for the money at all as I genuinely loved and still love him but I'm heartbroken if this is true as he is so against cheating and thinks men who go to prostitutes are embarrassing as they are paying for someone who doesn't fancy or want to, to sleep with them.
I'm so anxious and distraught right now and I'm trying to be strong for my baby but I'm crumbling seeing him everyday. He has other properties but won't move out or let me move in for now. I'm just so stuck. My family are renovating their house so I have to wait to move in there as it has no doors or walls right now. I'm not sure what I'm asking, maybe for some advice.
Also our dc was much longed for and we ttc for 2 years before that.