Stories of happiness after heartbreak?

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I’m trying to come to terms with the end of a relationship I thought was forever. I am amicably divorced with kids. When I got divorced I was relieved the relationship was over, so didn’t have to deal with heartbreak. Then a few years later I met a man that I fell deeply in love with. I was so happy with him and loved being in a relationship- having another adult for company, enjoying our child free weekends and holidays, someone to do nothing with, a partner. He has ended the relationship and I am devastated.

Please tell me your hopeful stories of finding happiness after heartbreak, either alone or in another relationship.

I’m sorry for your heartbreak, it’s such a tough time but go east on yourself.

My story perhaps isn’t a story about finding love again but more about finding myself. Doing things I always wanted to do but put off for some reason. Starting new hobbies and meeting lots of new friends. I focussed on doing things to keep me busy originally but soon realised I was doing things that made me happy and putting myself first.
Through this, I did meet my now dh and his opinion of me during our first meetings was that I seemed so happy in myself that he just wanted to get to know me.

Things are hard just now, you’re grieving the life you envisioned with this man. Take time to feel sad and have down days bur soon try to pick yourself up and focus on you. Remind yourself that things weren’t always perfect and now you have the perfect opportunity to put you first.

I believe nearly everybody has their heart broken at some point and everybody gets over it. As you will. But the only thing that will really help is the passage of time.

I last had my heart broken when I as 32, it was devastating because I was obviously at that age when I was hoping to settle down and I had thought he did too. It also wasn’t done nicely, it was an email. It took me a very long time to get over it, in fact I struggled for a year, but then after I passed the year point it started to feel better, I would think well I am happier now than I was a year ago when this first happened!

I threw myself into new activities, I made some new friends, no longer in touch with any now as I have twice moved overseas and drifted apart, but those friends were sent to help me during that time I think.

Anyway I am in my early 50s now and been with DH about 19 years. The heartbreak days are a very distant memory. I am not even sure this is a story, it is just a fairly average life.

Thank you both. I know this initial period is the hardest and I have to just keep going, I just hate feeling so utterly miserable and wish I could switch off my thoughts. I am trying to think of some hobbies I could try but nothing seems appealing at the moment, and it’s difficult as I have my kids most of the time. Fingers crossed it starts to get easier. When I got divorced I was already out of love so although it was hard I wasn’t heartbroken. This time I was very much in love so it has hit me hard as I didn’t see it coming.

I was heartbroken at 25 , i I had a three month old baby , and my partner left me for another woman .fast forward four years , and l met s newly single friend of s friend, and we have now been together nearly 20 years.

Just wanted to share my experience. Boyfriend of 10 yrs had a 5 month affair with another woman (a friend of ours). He told her we were over (we live apart). He juggled us both for 5
months until I got suspicious and confronted her. Basically I saw her off and made sure she was gone. I think he was in love with her and too much of a coward to end it with me. I couldn’t bear walking away and leaving them to it. She has definitely gone and me and him are still together. He will not discuss the massive betrail. Why can’t I just leave him?

Ive just been throught this partner ended with me 7 weeks ago its been agony but this guy on you tube helped me sooooo much watch loads of his vids soooo good. 4