Ending marriage to a sex addict

[Hopingforahappierlife]

After marrying the love of my life I found my successful , well respected husband was a sex addict . Signed up to 100s of dating sites, escorts, secret phones you name it I have found it . We went to a specialist but he refused to carry on with treatment. I have found him awake at 3 in the morning scrolling the sites .
I can’t carry on anymore as I have just found out he’s been having a regular hook up with someone off a kinky meet up site . I am smart, attractive but I guess that’s irrelevant, he’s broken me .
Please help me find the strength to end this , he’s threatening suicide again .

It’s a disgusting site where low life compare and review prostitutes like it’s an Amazon purchase. I am mentally scarred from seeing comments he made which I found by accident .

If it’s a relatively short marriage and the children aren’t his, then that does change the financial consequences of the decision to split unfortunately and so you will need to start preparing yourself and the children for the fact that you are likely to have to sell the house and find somewhere with your share of the proceeds and you will need to find full time work. Does the children’s father pay maintenance for them currently?

you dont need to find the strength to leave this relationship. just keep re reading the shit he has written about other women as if they were pieces of meat or possessions. use that anger each and every time. He wont kill himself he is way too selfish to do that. All that has happened is that he has found the button that controls you. threaten suicide and she wont leave - easy.

There's no such thing as 'sex addiction'. It is not a recognised diagnosis by the medical profession.

It's something men have made up to try and excuse their vile behaviour towards women.

Just get rid of him and be happy without wasting any more of your precious, lovely life.

Be strong and move on.

You deserve better and there's no future with DH now based on how he's behaved.

Between your salary, benefits and child maintenance you will possibly be better off than you think and you will create another lovely home. Get your ducks in a row and start shooting.

I was in a similar situation 15 years ago and haven't looked back. You will be fine 💐

Your kids when they are grown won't want you to have stayed with him just to stay in this house. They will want you to have been happy and safe, even if it's a smaller place in less nice area. You have to break free. Good luck and don't look backwards.

Run like hell and never look back. If he’s good with his words do everything you can to keep contact to a minimum. Are there children involved? If not, cut everything completely. Just like you, I thought I was with the love of my life. He got an OWI and I found his phone in our vehicle and he was on his way to meet a prostitute when he was pulled over. Prostitutes, massage parlors. Think about the future and having to wonder what he’s actually doing. Even if it never happened again how often would you be worrying about it happening? I know it’s so damn hard. I know you’re struggling with how you thought he was the love of your life. The love of your life isn’t this man. You have to see him for who he is right now, not what you hoped he might be. God, I hope we aren’t with the same man.