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Should I send a follow up text?

9 replies

Meme29 · 28/09/2023 18:09

Hi I met this guy at the weekend. He is really lovely and we had a lot in common. We have been texting back and forth (he sent good morning and good night texts)constantly as we share mutual interests and I’ve been getting to know him and he asked me out on a date at the weekend. He sent me a text about one of his interests last night and I replied but he hasn’t texted me back. I’m new to the dating game after being 3 years single, should I send a follow up text or is the ball in his court since I texted last and I should leave him be? I’m just a little confused as we hit it off then nothing..

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thiswasabadone · 28/09/2023 18:10

Don't double text this early on

PollyAmour · 28/09/2023 18:11

Leave it. There could be any number of reasons for the lack of reply.

SkyeBlue28 · 28/09/2023 18:26

I would wait for his reply

DatingDinosaur · 28/09/2023 19:02

I'd wait a bit longer but then ask if he got your last text. Technology does go wrong sometimes.

Dating is the same as it's always been. You try to meet someone you're interested in and filter out the time wasters. It's only a "dating game" if you start playing games and I don't see how double texting, or not, weeds out the time wasters personally. There may be a legitimate reason why he's not replied so give him a bit of a chance before binning him off.

CapEBarra · 28/09/2023 19:06

DO NOT ASK IF HE GOT YOUR LAST TEXT! If you had firm plans this weekend message tomorrow to say ‘Are we on for tomorrow tomorrow? What time/place?’ If not, then I’d leave it.

CapEBarra · 28/09/2023 19:07

(Oops, except with fewer tomorrows!)

Loubelle70 · 28/09/2023 19:09

I wouldn't text again. Id see if he replies, if he doesnt id move on

HoneyBadgerMom · 28/09/2023 19:41

I'm old and haven't dated for 20 years 😂 but my rule always was, if you have to wonder if you should call/text, then don't. Less is always more.

Hiddenvoice · 28/09/2023 19:50

I guess I’m different here- I probably would text, just something causal though just asking for how his days going or something related to what your hobbies are.

I’ve always been the type that if you like someone then go for it. If he likes you and arranged the date then he will like you making the move for once.

If you don’t want to text today then text tomorrow asking the plans for the date.

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