New relationships and sex, would like viewpoints!

[greeneyedgirl]

Hi, have been seeing my bf for 2 months or so, we were using condoms, but have now moved to the pill (which is much better for us both for differing reasons). However, today, I have been sat here wondering. He (so far) seems to be a really nice guy and we have talked about our sexual histories, and I am pretty confident that he is trustworthy. BUT, I don't really know him do I? Am I being silly not using anything except the pill? Have done this with past partners and have never had an STD, but for some reason this time I seem to be worrying about it. What did/do you do in your relationships?

Why not both go for std/hiv tests, by the time you have been and got the results you will be further into the relationship and will have had more time to think.

i think the best thing for you both to do is take a trip to the sexual health clinic and be tested together.....if this could turn or is turning into a serious relationship then he should understand. if you do this now there is nothing to plant seeds of doubt in your mind 6 months down the line...e.g if he comes back clean now but ends up giving you something in the future you know 100% that he has been unfaithful

Oh god that all sounds soooo scary. I am a bit rubbish at this, haven't slept with many people, I guess I am just really stupid. I now feel very frightened at the thought of getting HIV or something, I didn't really think of that . I am an awful worrier so now will be full of angst until I get myself checked! Bugger it! Just thought I'd add that I don't have any symptoms of anything, just something that came into my mind today.

lol dont worry about it....but it does seem the wisest thing to do

I agree with PeterDuck, 2 months is no time at all, and if you are worrying about it, then trust your instincts and don't take the risk.

How can I not worry? Have half convinced myself I have something terrible now. I will make an appt for next week...if I can bloody get through that is, the clinic is rubbish for answering their phones.

Thanks, will try not to worry, but is hard. I will give them a call tomorrow. Thanks all for your advice, just can't believe what an absolute moron I am

ask him to get a check up. you can get one at the same time. nothing like a test for peace of mind...