So it's my birthday next week, me and my partner both work long hours and I was so excited that this weekend we would have time for just us and it being my birthday weekend too. I asked him months ago to book it off as he works shift. He agreed but nothing was confirmed. I mentioned my best friend had invited me away if we weren't doing anything, he said no he's made plans for us. Today he's turned around and said he asked for leave yesterday and it's been rejected 😔 I was so disappointed. He said he will have a couple of hours spare this Saturday between sleeping off shift and I should stay at home alone, I've said absolutely not and said this is the last straw. I said I didn't want gifts, I don't want to go anywhere I just wanted him to cook me dinner at home and spend time with him, to which he can't do.
I really love him, but this feels like a tipping point. In 3 years he's cheated on me, drained me financially, lacks any responsibility and unless I ask him for help he pretty much leaves me to do everything.
Would you be frustrated over the birthday or am I looking into this to much, overthinking?