If a man tells you he needs to go away for a few days to weigh up his options on you, meaning if he wants to continue dating you
I had been going on a few dates with a man in July to August, he wanted to be exclusive 4 weeks in. We had only met a few times as during those 4 weeks he had been abroad 2 weeks of that time. We spoke every day.
Once on a date he picked me up, I was wearing a long summer dress with sandals, as you do on a beautiful summers day, he told me to go and change into high heals, obviously I stuck to my flat sandals, really nice sandals btw. Nothing wrong with what I was wearing at all.
He insisted I planned every date for those 8 weeks we were together.
He could be quite condescending in his tone when speaking to me, like I was hard of hearing, or just generally lacked intelligence.
He spoke appallingly about his older DD due to her failing her uni exams and being caught smoking pot. However, he would dote on his younger DD. Spoke badly off his x DW who apparently cheated on him.
The twist is, I only got diagnosed neurodivergent, high functioning autistic in August, told him immediately. There is a back story here way before I met him that lead to this diagnosis.
He was totally fine about it at first, then I noticed the tone change. This is also when I called it quits on the dating due to his behavior towards his DD and just other really odd things. We decided to remain friends, or he did. Said he had many ex gf on his social media, no issue for him. However I am not such collector of human interactions and social media to me is so lame anyway.
But he got in tough yesterday, letting me know how amazing his life is, and that he has started up his company, and I am so pleased for him as I know he has been working hard towards this.
He has now told me he really is into me, but I hurt him by calling it quits, and he needs to go away to see if he can date me again. This is after us talking about this summer, reminiscing basically, and that he was going to take time away to see if I was a person worth being around.
I am flabbergasted, one because I told him that there was no need for that, there was no we, but only for him to say he had a brain of his own, that he was doing this and that he would let me know in time.
What?
Those of you who are really good at human social interactions, do I just block the dude?
Or, do I hold off until he gets in contact to see what he has come up with? Then respond?
I mean I know my own worth but this has left a bad taste in my mouth.