Sexomnia

[Catmama123]

I didn't know if to post this in the sex or relationships board so I've posted in both, but im wondering if anyone has any experience of Sexomnia?

I'm female, and have had a few occasions in a past relationship where I've woken up once I've instigated sex or foreplay but with my current partner of 1y it's happening frequently, we spend 4/5 nights a week together and it happens at least one of those nights. Some nights I don't wake up and he will tell me the next day i was grinding on him, touching him etc and then I just roll over after a while.. but other times I keep going playing with him until he's 'ready' and then it turns into sex & I'll wake up but it's always me driving it and some nights I'll be in and out of knowing what I'm doing but don't properly wake up until a while later. Now my DP loves it, it makes him giggle when I'm humping his leg like a dog while asleep and enjoys if it goes further and he gets to climax. To be clear he never leads this, and doesn't play with me as he's so sleepy so there's no concern it's him doing this. But.... what if he ever wasn't comfortable with it, and it's got me worried if I shared a bed with a friend etc that I'd do the same? Is this something I should be worried about?

From googling it I've read things and some horror stories but I'm hoping to hear if anyone else has any real life experiences of it?

My partner has this sometimes - we have discussed and agreed we are both happy for the resultant sex/intimacy to go ahead. If I wasn't happy for any reason I would pull away/get out of bed/fully wake him. That hasn't been necessary so far as my libido tends to be greater than his, so I just enjoy the bonus sex!

As long as you discuss it with a partner and agree boundaries I wouldn't worry overly. If he didn't want the sex surely he could just pull away/wake you up?

I do see it's a strange thing and raises issues around consent, so important to discuss with your partner tho. Which it sounds like you have.

My husband does this sometimes and its fine really, nice even mostly he just fondles my bottom or breasts in his sleep and will pull items of clothing up or down for greater access sometimes it goes further but normally we both wake up fully before then and its all mutual and consensual. Most of the time its just sleepy fondling where I wake up realise what he is doing and just go back to sleep, on a couple of memorable occasions he has spanked my backside, he was mortified when he woke up and I told him what he'd done 😁

If you are in a loving relationship and have discussed then I think it should be fine but I'd probably not share a bed with a friend if you do this.

If he’s fine with it then there’s no problem, but you have to take responsibility for yourself when staying with anyone else, it would be unacceptable to knowingly put them in that position.

You'd get a right giggle if your mates put a giant Teddy in the bed with you when they realised your proclivities.