Really just a vent, mainly at myself :)
I posted here over a year ago when I found out that my then BF had a history of debt. There were other factors that had made me doubt the relationship for a while but this was the final nail in the coffin. I ended it, and he did not take it well but we stayed civil and just parted ways. And this is where it gets ridiculous.
A bit than a year later I woke to a message that he had sent at 2am on a Sunday morning that just read "Selfish C**t". My first thought was "what a loser" and nothing else, but after a while it got to me. He had waited a bit more than a year to send me that message, just so he could time it for the day when I had lost my beloved pet which had really, really upset me 2 years ago. I appreciate that this might sound ridiculous, but that pet had been my best friend for many years and it really hurt. My ex knew about this, as he has been around then.
It really made me wonder who the fuck I had been going out with, and how righy my decision had been to drop the loser.
No doubt, he had been good to me when I lost my pet, and I need to give him that. But how fucking nasty do you have to be get back at someone like that.
I screenshotted the message before he deleted it later that day, so his details and time/ date are visible. I initially considered posting it on his public facebook page (which he uses a lot to communicate with his family, as he doesn't really have any real friends) on a Sunday morning at 7 or 8, so his family and "friends" can see what a truly nice guy he is before he wakes around 11. The lazy slob never got up earlier than that at the weekend, so it would ensure a few hours of exposure before he'd even notice. Then I decided to leave it, and to let him realise how truly insignificant he is.
I could go forever, and now I regret telling him more directly why I broke up with him as I was trying to be gentle and kept it top level. God, never again will I date someone with so many issues and insecurities. The warning sign was in him always referring to him to be a "nice guy" who was always treated badly.
And yes, this felt good to write down!