Confused by ex

[whatsgoingo]

My ex dumped me a few months ago after driving the relationship forward for 7-8 months. He was very loved up and couldn’t get enough of me. He’s the first guy I met in a long time that I felt good about it and it felt right. He was about to move in with me and we had a holiday coming up.

Then overnight he didn’t have strong feelings and had to be alone to process his divorce (from 2 years ago).

2 months later he msged to say he regretted the break up and missed me.

A few weeks after this, I heard from a woman who he had been seeing casually after our break up. I msged him and he said that was a fling and now he’s met someone else he really likes and sees a future with.

I mean - wtaf?

Block him and be happy you dodged a bullet.

Love bombing, discarding…I mean the red flags are waving aren’t they?

Just block and distance yourself from this drama.

WTAF indeed!

There are some situations in which the only reasonable response is "She's welcome to him, and good luck to her". This is one of them.

Will he go all hearts & rainbows with the new "the one", only to run away when it comes to thinking about a future with her? Probably. Might she really be "the one", or the one for quite a while, anyway? Has he found his adulthood? Who the hell knows. Not your problem, thank goodness.

It was less than a year of your life, and it sounds like that year contained some very enjoyable experiences. Take the memories, and be glad he revealed himself before it went fully downhill.

I mean, is any of this normal? I’m hurt and confused by it.

I’ve been on three dates - and all three men were awful!

how is my ex finding all these women?

is he a player?

No this is very weird behaviour imo and I would block him. I wouldn't want anything to do with him.

No it's not normal, it's the behavior of a type of person you want to avoid at all costs. Block him and move on otherwise you'll end up being chewed up and spat out, over and over.

These type of people can trick others into doing whatever they require, it's emotional and psychological, love bombing. They can easily flip flop between multiple people, telling each one a different story and still paint themselves as a saint or victim.

I've experienced this as a guy too, twice. One from someone I saw briefly who used everyone and the second ended up in marriage and I fell for it and it was all a lie and abusive.

There are decent guys out there but decent guys do not do this to women they are interested in or truly care about.

He sounds like a classic love bomber/player, only enjoys the first flush of a relationship, he's already on the second one while you're still bewildered by it. Whether it's intentional or just immaturity who knows, you won't get sweep up by it again. Just ignore him if messages again.

These type of people can trick others into doing whatever they require, it's emotional and psychological, love bombing. They can easily flip flop between multiple people, telling each one a different story and still paint themselves as a saint or victim.

yes this sounds like him
the victim mentality was something else

Yeah, don't believe it. From my experience they have infact left an immense wake of destruction behind them, then played the victim.

You've just not found the right guy yet, you'll get there but just don't take this kinda shit from anyone.