How does children's contact with an abusive parent usually end?

[Courtnightmares]

Realise this is a how long is a piece of string question.
But honestly, what happens once the abuser gets unsupervised contact with his children?
Currently going through proceedings with a horribly abusive ex and he is hoping for contact to be lifted from supervised to unsupervised and has requested that I am the only person who does handovers with either him or his new partner.
I feel sick at the thought of it.
I've seen very telling little insidious traits of his behaviour during supervised contact and have no doubt whatsoever in my mind this will carry on when he gets unsupervised.

Hey. Sorry your going through this.
I've been through something similar. What I would say is that if the courts do agree to unsupervised contact make sure you think about what you want this to look like. Eg what would work best for the children and yourself long term. Eg collecting from school and dropping back to a family friend. I used to pay a child minder to receive the children after contact. They would then be returned to a safe place with out any stress and it reduced down the contact between us.

Try and see things objectify. The idea is that he sees his child safely. Dictating that either him or his girlfriend do hand overs with only you is clearly him being controlling. That will be clear to see by all. If you come from a place of wanting minimum stress for your child you won't go far wrong. Try and think of other people who can receive/take your child to minimize his context with you.

Try and endure contect is very strait forward and it's written on the court order in a way that's Cristal clean to both of you. Also avoid the child going back and forth a lot, the minimum amount of contact you have with him the better.

There is actually a lot of practice things you can do. You want to get to the point that his negative impact on your life and your child's is minimal.

Feel free to send me a personal message and we can chat more.