Husband listens to nothing!

[JemmaT12]

My husband and I have been together for 22 years now and married for 18. We have four children, oldest being 17 and youngest 3.

He works full time and I'm at home home due to extremely poor mental health (diagnosed PTSD and agoraphobia)

I don't know if the problem is me because to be honest, he's always been like this and I've just got on with it. But now his behaviour is driving me insane.

He listens to nothing!!! Simple things like "can you clean our daughters shoes when you do your work shoes" requests completely ignored, then I get annoyed and get the immature "I'm sorry babe". But it's constant. He forgets everything to do with me and the kids, but I guarantee could tell me the ins and outs of his friends days. He doesn't care.

I've been knocked off my feet this week with a flu/Covid thing. He knows our daughters lunch needs made, did he do it before he life for work when he was doing his to help me out because I can't stand at the moment without feel faint, nope! And I feel like I could bloody kill him!

Is it just me??

I had this with my ex. I’d reckon if I said ‘I’ve just made chilli for dinner, so don’t eat the chilli for lunch” all he would hear was “eat the chilli for lunch”.

I felt the same as you. In my case it was my husbands lack of respect for me and if he could get away with “forgetting” he would.

The only thing I can suggest is follow up requests with texts (so he can’t say he was never asked), and leave written notes on the kitchen counter or fridge etc.

You shouldn’t have to do this, but some people are inherently lazy and will try and get away with it.

Written notes are useful if he is truly forgetful. May he could put alarms on his phone to remind himself.