I think I’m in an abusive relationship. I say think because I have difficulty accepting it. I don’t want to believe that the person I’ve spent 23 years with could be charming one minute and awful the next.
Latest episode was on Saturday I asked if he could move his car so I could get my car out and go the shop. He point blank refused and told me I’d have to wait 1 hour as that would be when he was leaving. He was ranting and raving for 15 mi utes but I didn’t back down (I was shaking inside and as white as a sheet) I told him he had no right telling me when I could and couldn’t leave the house.
He ended up kicking the coffee table and said he’d move the car as he’d end up doing something he shouldn’t!
Previous examples are he’s hit me in the back while in bed during a heated discussion on 2 occasions.
He’s thrown water over me during an argument.
Hz can be very critical of me and can be derogatory about me in front of the children.
a few months ago he said he’d start helping around the house when I mentioned this the other day he said I don’t make him want to help !
He got annoyed last week because he couldn’t find socks and he slammed or threw the box on the floor and broke part of it.
As I’m writing this I can’t quite believe this is the same person who can be so kind and charming.
It’s like I need to understand why he’s like this ? He never apologises it’s all brushed under the carpet ! I have an appointment with women’s aid tomorrow.