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Respect

27 replies

whatawhoha · 25/09/2023 14:15

How do you respect your husbands?

I am in counselling with my husband and he has said, he does not feel respected by me. I do respect him, and when asked what I resect about him, very on the spot, I said I respected his achievements, his parenting, his opinions, his intelligence, his ambition. I was told that is a list I could have said about anyone, and did not show respect for my husband.

What would you have said? Where have I gone wrong?

OP posts:
Specso · 25/09/2023 16:43

Aquamarine1029 · 25/09/2023 15:10

It sounds like your husband and the therapist are both gaslighting you.

He doesn't know what he wants from me, but knows I am not fulfilling whatever it is he needs...

Fine. Then end the marriage, op. Let him go find what he's looking for and stop wasting your fucking time. You are trying to fix your relationship while he wants you to solve riddles. Fuck that.

Ending a toxic marriage is not a failure, it's what needs to happen.

This

Frogger8395 · 25/09/2023 17:31

He doesn't know what he wants from me, but knows I am not fulfilling whatever it is he needs...

Why are you listening to this shit? If he doesn’t know, how are you supposed to know?

Stop indulging this dysfunction and ego stroking. Find a different counsellor and go on your own.

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