Give me your top tips please on dealing with heartbreak

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Relationship ended

I hate that feeling of loss, grief, sickness. Not knowing what to do with myself.

What helped you?

I'm busy working and I'll go for a walk/run later if I can get out before it's dark, but any other advice would really be appreciated. I hate this!!!

Sorry to hear this 💐 Breathing exercises for stress, a long bath, eat well if you can. This too shall pass. Get out to meet friends for coffee, see an art exhibition, do some gardening.

Sending love - and hugs xxx

Do things for yourself, even if you don't want to. Getting out in the fresh air is a definite. I feel.for you op- Bern there. If you didn't want the relationship to end I think.sometimes it can be harder to deal.with. Hand hold

Have a routine that you stick to. Make sure it has everything that you need, some things that would normally make you happy, and some new things, like going to places you haven't been before, joining a group or class, starting a project, learning something new, creating something etc.

Then stick to it as best you can, and wait. Accept that you are going to feel shitty for a bit, and treat yourself the way you'd treat anybody else who was feeling shitty: kindly, gently, forgivingly.

Start with caring for you. Yes it sucks when a relationship ends, but put yourself first now.
Dont blame yourself.
Go on that walk.
Take that bath with all them candles and music.
Take up a hobby.
Get in contact with old friends.
Talk to yourself lovingly.
If you feel like things are getting on top of you, take yourself out the house, go for a walk, or to a coffee shop, local library, join a running club, whatever you have to do to not dip into the post relationship limbo.

Oh and do a makeover of the house or flat, get new cushion covers, bed linen, candles, rearrange things, and play that funky music.

I second the mini makeover of your home. Get rid of any

Sent too early - get rid of anything that reminds you of them. Move furniture and open windows. Light candles and joss sticks. Do, listen, watch or wear something they hated but you like/love. I know it sounds silly, but this time is all about coming back to you and your truth. Move your body, do yoga or go for a walk. Do you like crystals? I know they're not for everyone, but thumbing/holding a Crystal really helps with my anxiety, so might be good for times like these. Sending love x

Also, if you can't face leaving the house much, then still put on make up and get yourself a ridiculously cool kimono (maybe something bright, patterned or fringed. Something only you are really going to see, but makes you feel great).

Get some special snack food (posh crisps/wasabi peas/just something special) in too. At least if you're wallowing, you're doing it style and treating yourself to quality/fancy food!

Thank you all for your lovely messages

I know it will pass , want to sleep and wake up in a month feeling better

On the upside I'm losing weight which I needed too. So definitely more fitness and self focus.

I'm trying to sell my house, need to downsize so no money or inclination to spend on it. Getting a buyer would be a wonderful distraction

Thank you all so much 🙏

Good luck, I hope you get a buyer soon.

Maybe wearing this and swanning around your home whilst potential buyers are viewing will help sway their decision! Haha

Seriously though, keep your chin up. X

that did make me laugh! But I'm trying entice them not scare them 😂

Yeah selling the house. New start would be perfect

Go completely no contact, no stalking on Whatsapp or SM. Cling onto the fact that one day this will feeling will pass, it always does in the end.

No contact. No social media stalking. No asking after them.

Make a list of all the things you couldn't do with them/that annoyed you.
Make a list of all the things you miss. Cross off all the ones that are every nice boyfriend (eg morning sex/snuggles in front of the tv).
Make a list of all the things you want to do and do them. Fall in love with your own life. Do something that scares you a bit.

I went to talk to someone last year when I was pretty heartbroken over a relationship. He absolutely did my head in because he cut me off like I never existed. I walked around in a broken angry confused daze for months.

I was advised to take my emotional thinking out of it. We did a brain storm and wrote facts around his name. It made me see him.for what he was.

I also found projects or treats for myself helped. I bought myself a new ornament. Painted a room. Went walking in the woods. Gave myself little lifts.

I also journaled how I felt.

It's a rotten place to be. Depending on what caused the split I also found googling toxic relationships helped me to understand what I'd been through.

I am going through this too. It’s awful. I’m about 4 weeks in, still crying every day and can’t really see the light at the end of the tunnel, but the things that are helping a tiny bit are sleeping tablets, outdoor walks, wine, talking to friends and work. I thought I’d sort out my house but actually can’t be bothered at the moment and prefer getting out when I have the time. I also find a good book helps to distract me from my phone. I also thought I’d go the gym more but I keep bursting into tears when I’m there so that’s not really working.

But, it’s still absolutely horrendous and I am devastated. I can’t bear to think about the future without him so am trying to take each day at a time.

i hope things improve for both of us. It’s a very horrible type of grief.

It is awful. It's like having a really bad stomach bug, it's horrible, but you know it won't last.

I also try to remember that everything happens for a reason and better times will come 🙏

Sounds like you're doing the right things. I don't want to meet friends yet as I dint want to talk about it.

Treat yourself as you would a dear friend. Be gentle, look after yourself, eat as well as you can manage at the moment. Prioritise you.

you will feel like you’re wading through treacle at the moment, but it’s important to let yourself feel what you’re feeling and please know…..This WILL get better, I absolutely promise that.