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Am I in the wrong ?

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Lionessbecca · 25/09/2023 10:12

Just a quick post to say so my partner has been saying he’s not been feeling very well I mean last few days he’s been able to get up out of bed but not until really late like he usually does on the days he’s not got work . But think it’s because it’s the morning I’m not too sure just wondering if I am in the wrong for leaving him as when I am ill myself I’m still expected to care for them get up for them as he wouldn’t take a day off work if I wasn’t feeling well to help . This morning I had a gp appointment but I had to rush to leave to go I had 10minutes left and he was moaning at me telling me to take the kids as he’s ill and I’m taking the piss he says . He told me to take them yesterday so I said ok but this morning I was rushing around I needed to leave and he’s so annoyed with me . He would go into work whenever he’s ill but because he needs the money as he’s self employed . Same thing happened yesterday he didn’t want to wake up as had to get my girls lunch but he was annoyed when I asked him about lunch as I didn’t have money yesterday for lunch he had the money

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Watchkeys · 25/09/2023 10:29

Sorry, is he having a go at you for expecting to look after the kids during time when you would normally be looking after the kids and he'd be working?

Autumntimeagain · 25/09/2023 10:31

So you're expected to carry on with things when you're ill, but he doesn't think that he should be doing the same ?

Obviously he's being unreasonable, and an arse !

No-one gets out of adulting just because they're a bit 'under the weather' (i.e a normal, mild illness and not a serious one like cancer)

Tell him to grow up and stop expecting the world to revolve around him and his selfishness !

Lionessbecca · 25/09/2023 10:43

Yeah exactly that 🙃

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Dolores87 · 25/09/2023 15:00

Unless he is full blown stuck in bed vomiting if he doesn't take the kids places or help you when you are ill I wouldn't be helping him and if he moans I would point out the hypocrisy

HopeFloatsAbove · 25/09/2023 15:09

No you are not wrong. This is being a parent, regardless of being unwell or not. Tough that he has to look after his own kids when you have the Dr. Seriously sometimes words fail me

Lionessbecca · 25/09/2023 15:19

He isn’t even vomiting lol I don’t know what’s up with him he feels weak and has a bad throat he says but hes just gone to work now to finish up some bits as his boss as told him to as he’s asked him on a scale of 1-10 how do you feel so he’s said 7 so he said to him oh I’ve been in a much worse position having to still do things in the army whilst I’m feeling a lot more worse and partner says it’s not the same though is it has a stroppy fit and has gone in now .

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Lionessbecca · 25/09/2023 15:21

Thank you for this he literally is just horrible sometimes and makes me feel like I’m the bad one 24/7

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