Worried about my boyfriend after he went out with friends

[Ol4529]

I have been with my boyfriend a year now, we officially moved in together about 2 months ago (he has moved into my house). We had an argument on Friday night, I have been saying for months I feel like we never do anything together and never go on date nights or anything, we just sit in the house all day. So he decided to walk out and go back to his mums while she is away on holiday (even though I done nothing wrong, he gets very defensive). We have hardly spoken since and I knew he was going out with his friends on Saturday night. So he goes out, I hardly hear from him but he had asked me if I wanted to go for food on the Sunday to try and talk things out. Anyway, I text him first thing Sunday morning and I hear nothing all day. He finally decides to message me 'I've just woke up sorry' at 4pm the next day. I can't help but feel annoyed and a little anxious about it, he has never stayed in bed until 4pm. Should I be worried that he could have cheated on me? It's now Monday and we still haven't spoke. Considering he is in the wrong, I am little annoyed at his lack of effort

Sounds like your relationship is at an end tbh. Let him go.

even though I done nothing wrong, he gets very defensive

But you are being defensive, can you see that?

Your post is all about him being wrong and you being right. That's not healthy. Why do you feel the need to do that?

Should I be worried that he could have cheated on me

Why do you think anybody can tell you whether you should worry or not? Which authority decides how you 'should' feel?

How do you feel?

I think you have posted about this boyfriend before ? If so , the relationship really isn’t healthy .

Two months after moving together and you're both behaving like this?

This relationship is doomed, sorry.

he doesnt have to come back, you could have a break for as long as you want

Honestly a man with this maturity level is not what you want. Especially if you want to start a family one day. Get out. My DH would never ever not keep me updated.

Should still be easy and no effort at the year mark, this all seems like hard work!

He went away to stay at his mums for an entire weekend after you said you feel like you never have date nights? Unless you're missing out a huge backstory then that's a massive over reaction and he doesn't sound like he is able to communicate normally and will take any discussion about your relationship as a huge criticism and run away instead of trying to sort it.

I think this is a huge issue in itself and you are asking the wrong question with 'has he cheated'. It should be 'do I want to stay with someone with this level of emotional maturity'

This isn’t a relationship that’s giving you joy and it should. Don’t be with someone for companionship or because you’re lonely. He isn’t acting like he wants to be with you and that’s what you deserve

This. Sounds like too much drama.

So you don't go out together, and when you tackle him about it, instead of saying " let's do something over the weekend", he leaves you and goes out with his mates.
There you are then, he'd rather spend his free time with other people than with you. I hope he has he been paying you rent since moving in?
Just let him move back home permanently and don't be so quick to move another BF into your home. In fact, it's never a good idea to move anyone in. You buy or rent together if your relationship progresses that far, because that shows commitment and effort whereas just moving into someone's own place, is too easy so you can just be being taken advantage of.

In fact, it's never a good idea to move anyone in

That's a step too far! Loads of people move in with their partners and everything works out great. OP, your problem is that you didn't assess the relationship properly before he moved in, not that you allowed someone to move in at all.

Sorry OP, but he sounds very childish. His reaction to you wanting to go out with him, is to walk out then hang out with his friends.

You are bottom of his list. That won't change unless he wants it to and he isn't showing any signs of that with his behaviour.

You have allowed an immature man to live in your house. Time for him to move back to his mum's now.

No, I wouldn't put up with that. It doesn't matter if he has cheated, he's not ready for a mature relationship. Find someone that makes you happy and wants to spend time with you.

In my experience if there are issues during the honeymoon phase it’s always a red flag. All of those relationships turned out toxic for me.

You've not been together for that long, sounds like you've got loads of time to find someone else at this stage - doesn't sound like he's that good company or fun and it's not even been that long! You deserve much better and you'll find someone else easily!!