Access Husbands Whatsapp

[detectiveme123]

Not sure if I can even ask this but my husband is messaging a female friend of his a lot and I’m starting to suspect something is going on. No proof, just a gut feel. Is there anyway, other than looking at his phone I can access his WhatsApp? I know there’s a way of having two accounts logged into but I don’t know how to do it.

Torao invasion of privacy. Ask him for his phone, he might hand it over

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I know, I totally get that. Believe me, I don’t feel good about thinking like this.

Ask him. If you don't trust him enough to believe his answer, you don't trust him enough to be in a relationship.

There's your answer. Don't snoop. Don't lower yourself.

I've been wondering how to do this too 😔 Of course it's an invasion of privacy, but there are circumstances leading to this. It's not black and white. My circs are similar, OP. I think he knows I'm onto something so I want to see before he has the opportunity to cover all the tracks. Did you have any luck?

Don’t do it. Call him out on it

You can log in on two devices by scanning the QR code to access, but be careful. WA sends a notification to the original device to say a new device has logged in and it will usually do this several hours after you've logged in (I know this because I have my own WA account logged in on my phone and my tablet).

As others have said, don't snoop but do ask him. If his reaction is anything other than care and concern that he might have done something to hurt or upset you, you have your answer.

Indignant anger is usually just a way of deflecting and is not the way a partner who cared about you would react.

I will ask him. My gut feeling is so off about this though.

@detectiveme123, your discomfort is valid. You know your H and are alarmed at his changed behavior. He and this woman are investing in an
over-frequent level of contact that is causing you to feel unsettled. It sounds like they are enjoying a dynamic of mutual attention and validation which is inappropriate for a married man.

How does he know her?
Do you know her?
What is her status?
Do you know if they are meeting up?

You need answers as your peace of mind is being affected. If anything illicit is going on, he is not going to admit that to you, and will likely downplay, gaslight, and go underground if you speak to him right now.

Knowledge is strength, so I would absolutely investigate his phone before confronting him. Even if you don’t find anything flirtatious or worse, the intense frequency of contact suggests they are building an emotionally intimate bond that goes beyond platonic friendship and threatens your marriage.

@detectiveme123, you have every right to gather information and express your boundaries.

Well I would definitely advise snooping as well if you can as above! I feel like everyone has the right to know factual truthful relevant information about their marriage which might be pertinent to huge life decisions. And I’m not sure a cheater has ever admitted it when challenged… I also don’t think anybody who has ever questioned it should simply abandon their marriage deciding that if they’re even questioning the possibility it’s as good as happened. There are plenty of trusting women whose husbands are cheating left right and centre (I know, I was once one of them - til I got really suspicious and snooped!). So not sure why the opposite couldn’t be true - untrusting women with faithful husbands?