Left binge drinking husband but miss

[Princess12365837]

Hello iv left my dh iv been with him for 14 years he's always been a bit of drinker of the years but now he's has been binge drinking 3 4 days a week and taking drugs I have 4 children with him and left him 5 weeks ago because I had enough of he's problems and he's issues I had to put my children first for once but now I'm laying in my bed and I miss him so much and I love him its like iv lost half of me we still kind of talking and agreed if he stop drinking alcohol il return to our family home but he broke he promises a few days ago and I don't no what to do my heart telling me give him another chance my head telling me to run and don't look back as anybody ever been in this situation before I feel lost and I need help

you dont miss him in reality. you miss the fantasy him where everything is lovely and you get on really well, he helps round the house and doesnt binge drink or take drugs. you are sad and lonely because you are mourning the life that the two of you could have had. doesnt matter how many chances you give him, he wont change unless he wants to and he doesnt. you would need to see at least a year sober and without drugs to even think about starting back with him again. You owe it to your kids. being bought up in a household with a drug user and a binge drinker isnt some sort of victimless crime. these kids suffer because of it. they will be anxious, they will know from a very young age what is going on. and it will have a profound and long lasting influence on their lives.

So, if you go back to him you put not only your own happiness at risk but that of 4 other people as well. sorry but you need to give your kids some attention and think about them now and making sure their lives are ok. You put them first this time for a reason. that reason hasnt changed so why are you changing your mind. Its not easy, everyone struggles but far better you struggle and see the way through than put 5 of you back in to this shit situation again isnt it.?

Thank you I needed to hear that its so hard because I come from traveling community and frowned apon separating from your husband and in he's family its normal to binge drink as hes a Scottish traveller its a different culture to roma gypsy's I'm back home with my parents and hundreds of miles away from him I'm trying to do what's best for my children its hard when they talk about there dad I have been the best wife to him and I was a stay at home mum when I was with him my children always had my attention it was just the normal way of living life in Scotland

I have just left my binge drinking hubby after 37 years
broken trust and promises
it just gets worse. Until you know longer recognise yourself. I thought I was going crazy
i finally realised he doesn’t love me
he loves playing single life
but wants to know I am at home

well now he has gone to himself
Nd can play single as much as he chooses
which he is. And missing work along the way