Paying for Naked Pictures

[KelJel]

Around May this year I went on my partners phone and discovered he'd been paying for naked pictures etc on an app called ' tango' . I was furious , hurt and had just found out I was pregnant with our second child. I'd said I was absolutely against him doing anything like this!! He said it was an addiction that got out of hand. We had many discussions and I thought we'd had a clear understanding he was not to do it ever again!
Fast forward to today , ( 22 weeks pregnant ) he left his phone on the side , I had a look , and low and behold he has yet again been on the app as recently as Thursday paying again for pictures !
I haven't mentioned it to him yet, how do I bring it up again ?????
I'm being lied too, I'm being disrespected , I just don't know what to think anymore

From experience he won’t change Op. So it depends on if you want to put up with it. It’s as simple as that.

The moment the other person says it's an addiction is the moment it would end for me. It's not an addiction. You want to look and pay for tits and minge whilst you have a lover in your bed. Fuck that shit.
if you want to leave them do, don't stay just because your pregnant. If you stay we will see you on MN in a few months when he's doing it all over again

How naked is naked?

Are they male magazine type (like in the olden days, Playboy, top shelf at the corner shop type etc) of are they pics better left in the gynae ward?

Either way if you feel threatened or insecure you need to sort it out again with him. If he gaslights, then you have some big decisions to make, maybe?

Does it matter how explicit they were? He paid for them... If a man wants pics of naked women, however explicit, he can get literally millions of them for free online. The fact he's paying suggests a level of intimacy - imagined or otherwise - with the person providing them. He won't be paying for porno pics of some random woman.

I'd say any variety of naked is naked enough.

The OP has told us she was furious and hurt the first time, and had expressed this in "many discussions". There's no justification for her partner to think it was alright because they weren't graphic enough.

OP you've said it yourself, he's lied and disrespected you. I'd be leaving the relationship.

He won’t change.

The money he is spending is money taken away from you and your children. He’s not addicted, he’s just another liar who doesn’t really give a shit about your feelings.

If you stay with him, this will be your life. Personally, I would leave.

How can you ever trust him OP? He's lied and deceived you and this may well be the tip of the iceberg. If you stay with him you will always be waiting for the next time you catch him out. That would be it for me, l'd be asking him to leave.

Are you happy to stay with a man that (i) diverts family income to random women online, (ii) is stupid enough to pay for pics when lots of adult material is free on the internet, (iii) doesn't care that he is buying into an adult industry with a very poor track record for women lured into this sort of activity, (iv) lies to you repeatedly. I am sorry you find yourself in this position, but time to put him out. What else don't you know yet about what he gets up to? If he is buying pictures, he maybe engaging with escorts and all sorts.

Wow a second child with this specimen... I would ask why but instead I suggest fucking the base-minded cunt off and try to avoid his type in future.

Sadly I've had to ask myself the same thing , obviously had I known he was living a second life via his device I wouldn't have had children with him in the first place.
However here we are .

Thank you for all your replies ! I think you've all just confirmed what I'm thinking . I confronted him last night about it , very calmly as I'm not risking raising my blood pressure over someone who doesn't give me a second thought when he's lusting over other women 🫠
The excuse I got was ' it's curiosity ' .
I'll be setting a plan in place to leave .

I also have him an opportunity to be honest , he lied to my face said he'd never do it again after the first time as he risked losing me , then I was able to come back with ' but you're lying , I went on your phone this morning '

Are you angry about the porn or that he paid for it?

Porn is a total deal-breaker for me, are you fine with porn?

If yes:
Why is the paying for it bad/upsetting?

Sorry, I know there are many women who are okey with porn as long as no money is send and I just don’t understand it.
It’s all so misogynystic and hurts women.