The Slow Journey to Freedom

[AspiringToBlueBeanbagHood]

Looking for a bit of support from you all here. Have just started the long long road to escaping DA and am feeling pretty low. It's taken a long time to realise just how comprehensively my frog has been boiled, and in the last couple of months it's finally sunk in that my marriage is irretrievably over.
I'm in the process of getting support IRL but it all seems so hard. The one thing that's given me strength is that in the last week I've realised that two separate women that I've known casually in my community have not only gone through the same thing, but have come out of it stronger and wiser. The thread on here by BlueBeanbag about her escape has also really helped me to move forward.
If anyone has any advice on how to keep going, it would be much appreciated.

No advice but a hand hold. That thread was the one that forced me to try to find an escape from my own hell although there had been many others that slowly opened my eyes so I could see the hell instead of just feeling it. So many strong women refusing to give up.

Keep posting. We hear you

I was told that 1 in 3 women go through this. That is truly horrible. Thank you, knowing I'm not the only one and that others have got out gives me the strength to carry on.

This time last year I was fighting to survive. I was suicidal and planning how to do it but i didn't really want to die. I was trying to find the energy to call the GP for antidepressants when I read a small, single post on here, part of which said " I realised I was medicating myself just to stay in a marriage." 💡moment.

Sorry to hear that@Pixiedust1234
I too contemplated that but the thought of what would happen to my DS stopped me. I think the crunch point was seeing him behave like that with my DS. That light bulb moment. Thankfully my GP reached out at just the right time and now the wheels are in motion.

Yes, that was another 💡 moment for me too when he started gaslighting our DD. I will never forget that look of confusion on her face.

Keep posting, use this space as a diary to put down your thoughts, keep records, and vent