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Husband and plus 1 .. I'm I being daft

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Zoe7777 · 22/09/2023 22:09

So my husband has been invited to a upcoming wedding ( groom's his friend ) now my problem is all other couples are attending.Iv seen the invite it's quite casual just saying kids welcome ect.. but he hasn't asked me or the kids to attend with him.He just told me such and such was getting married and the date, he does have form of not wanting me to go places with him so I don't know if to just ask him or wait and see ?
Thank you.

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PawsAndReflection · 22/09/2023 22:13

Does the invite say 'DH + partner'?

CrapBucket · 22/09/2023 22:15

Ask him, though he sounds like a terrible husband tbh.

Dacadactyl · 22/09/2023 22:17

I'd just say "I'm looking forward to John's wedding, will be good to see him and Mary again" and take it from there.

randomuser2019 · 22/09/2023 22:25

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SherbetLemonn · 22/09/2023 22:27

What do you mean, he doesn’t like you going places with him? That’s very strange behaviour, and makes me feel quite sad for you that it seems to just be a given.

Livelifelaughter · 22/09/2023 22:57

I had to read your message twice....to see if this was a boyfriend of 3 months. Your husband sounds like a dick... sorry, but I would assume a wedding invite includes a married partner unless the wedding couple have a reason e.g. very small venue for the service but invite partners to reception. Either way your husband should explain this to you. It's awful that rather than asking him you have to tiptoe around him...

mrsm43s · 22/09/2023 23:33

I do think it's pretty sad if your DH didn't want to take you with him for a night out. BUT, on the other hand, if you coming also means the kids coming, and the kids are junior school age or below, then that entirely changes the dynamic for him from night out/piss up/matey hang out /letting hair down to family time/looking after the kids/being sensible etc. It really is very different. I can certainly see why he'd want a non on duty as parent night out from time to time.

Could you see about arranging babysitters, and then suggesting that you both go and book a room in the wedding hotel, so you can have a fun night out together as a couple?

perfectcolourfound · 23/09/2023 08:06

This is about more than the wedding invitiation.

For a start, you don't know how to talk to your husband about this, which is a bad sign. You should be able to talk to your DH about ANYTHING without fear of how he will respond.

And then there's the huge fact that he doesn't like to go places with you.

Do you consider yourself to be happily married? Do you feel valued, wanted, supported, loved, respected as an equal in the relationship? Do you each pull your weight, in terms of emotional investment and workload? Are you proud of each other?

If your husband doesn't enjoy your company, or if he wants to act like a single man so he can chat to other women, then this is about much more than the wedding.

Gottoloveatakeaway · 23/09/2023 08:30

perfectcolourfound · 23/09/2023 08:06

This is about more than the wedding invitiation.

For a start, you don't know how to talk to your husband about this, which is a bad sign. You should be able to talk to your DH about ANYTHING without fear of how he will respond.

And then there's the huge fact that he doesn't like to go places with you.

Do you consider yourself to be happily married? Do you feel valued, wanted, supported, loved, respected as an equal in the relationship? Do you each pull your weight, in terms of emotional investment and workload? Are you proud of each other?

If your husband doesn't enjoy your company, or if he wants to act like a single man so he can chat to other women, then this is about much more than the wedding.

This

Marineboy67 · 23/09/2023 09:11

Perhaps his reluctance to take you maybe due to one of the other guests he may not wish you to meet! A jealous ex, a man that knows something about him etc....that would be the questions I'd be asking!

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