Is a break beneficial ?

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I don’t know what to do. I’m just so unhappy.

been with my partner 3 years, we are each others first loves. (We are young) we also just had a baby who we adore to absolute bits.

I love my partner, I really do. I just feel like I can’t be with him I physically can’t. I’m crying everyday because I can’t deal with him anymore. We don’t get along these days, we’re always bickering over something. The smallest thing sets me off and I try break up with him but he just cries. So we end up okay again. We’ve had numerous of chats regarding our fighting recently but it goes nowhere.

I don’t think I want to be with him, but it would break me into a million pieces it really would. I also can’t stand the thought of him finding someone else that would kill me. And for our baby it’s not fair on her. I don’t know what to do I feel like I’m being selfish.

I don’t know what I want!!! I really don’t.

are breaks beneficial? Would time apart help us and make me realise what I want. I’m dreading seeing him after work because I just feel like crying when he’s in my presence. It’s not what it used to be.

he’s made it very clear he wants to be with me forever even through these tough times. But I’m seriously struggling.

im rambling now. I just want to feel happy in my relationship

"I don’t think I want to be with him, but it would break me into a million pieces it really would. I also can’t stand the thought of him finding someone else that would kill me."

If you know you don't want to be with him, ending the bad relationship will not break you into a million pieces, or kill you, or kill him.

You'll still both exist, just as separate people, you'll be happier without him if that is what you want, and if he's a sensible person, he'll still be able and want to spend time with DD.

Are the fights stemming from new baby tiredness or is he an arse?

Pay attention to your gut instincts - they're there to protect you :)

This:
"I’m dreading seeing him after work because I just feel like crying when he’s in my presence. It’s not what it used to be.
he’s made it very clear he wants to be with me forever even through these tough times. But I’m seriously struggling."

makes me think he sounds malevolent and potentially abusive

Breaking up isn’t going to ruin anyone’s life, if you really don’t want to be with him do that.

Or, if you want to give it a go, try couples counselling, which will also help you break up in a more civil way if needed.

I think ‘a break’ is just kicking the can.

Also check in with your GP re PND if you think it could be that