He's moving out - next weekend........

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don't know where to - haven't asked him (yet) - but he's just told me.

I'm glad in one respect we just can't live together like this - but a bit too - especially as next weekend is my birthday...

thanks - been out for coffee with one of my friends this morning after dropping DS2 at nursery (I treated her ) which was nice......meant I haven't been sitting around the house with H all morning...

Here is the lady who took 3 children on a bus for 8 hours to Edinburgh and back (where the bus broke down and had to change over) - and you think you can't cope???????????????? (I would have been a nervous wreck)

You will be fine.

hmmm - I suppose you have a point there - most of my friends thought I was nuts for even contemplating going on the coach with them

You'll be fine. the space will probably be good for you and h. It'll help both you and he decide waht you do want in the long run.

You know its true what susiecutie is saying about another chapter of your life, a happier one where you are wiser and know what you want now.

Its better to be happy and perhaps a little lonely sometimes than be in a miserbale relationship and feel very lonely most of the time.

I know it's sudden so "real" having got a timescale on it - previously it was "at some point once money is available".......

Maybe once you are apart, you can re-discover the love that you once had. And if you can't, then the separation is for the best. You need to move forward.

{{{{{ hugs }}}}}

yes I'm (sort of) hoping that is what happens....but trying not to hold my breath.

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Aright Lady

You'll be grand, you know you will

Just think, by your next birthday you will have moved on a bit & will be able to celebrate it much better. And fwiw I would love to go to the sing along grease!

And just because he will be living elsewhere it doesn't mean he won't be able to pull his weight with regards to the boys!

Just one Q though.. where did he say he was going? Whose actual idea was it to split, I mean, you say he is going etc & he says he doesn't want to go to relate etc, so is he effectively choosing to end the marriage?

You are one strong lady & I have seen you come through so much (before ds3 etc) so I am quite confident that you will manage just fine!

I'm sorry to hear this FAQ. I have lurked on your other threads but never posted

FAQ Sorry to hear your news, i have been following your other threads. Where abouts in East Anglia are you?

well I must confess I am looking forward to the sing-a-long grease - it'll be a laugh (even with 3 DS's in tow).

Think he's staying with a friend until he can sort out a proper room/flat/whatever to rent. I was going to move out initially (although he did before I went away suggest that he move out and I stay here), then it was agreed that he would - once the money from my Granddad's will came through.........then we had another HUGE row yesterday with him saying the sooner he moved out the better and me telling him to pack his bags when he got home from work (he was literally on his way out the door to work as the argument happened) and find a friends sofa to sleep on .

He's said in several discussions (both calm ones and "rows") that as far as he's concerned that we're finished and it's final.....

With regards to the DS's - it depends on where he finds to live initially - a lot of the lets/shares round this area are "professional" only - so he needs to try and find somewhere that won't mind him having the 3 DS's camping in his room when he has them...

I don't think it's in Wellingborough though - AFAIK he doesn't know anyone here - I suspect (though will find out for sure when he gets in) that he's going to be down in Milton Keynes at for the time being as I know he's got a "mate" down there where he's stayed overnight on the (rare) occasions he's had a night out.