Is this Abuse

[alchemist999]

I realise that things were done differently in the 70s and 80s but would you see this as abuse if a parent did this:

Put downs about intelligence such as criticising school projects, questioning ability to make intelligent notes, saying it's a shame that abilities didn't persist in a nasty way.

Slapping a me so hard that I had a bruise for talking when I shouldn't

Being dragged into my bedroom for smacks as punishment but these were like beatings

Having my trousers and pants pulled down when I was just about in puberty to have my bum smacked/beaten

Putting me down in front of other adults

No sympathy for things that upset me such as a group a friends turning on me

I've been reflecting on my self esteem and confidence which is improving but the early years have taken their toll

Yes I would.
Carry on working on yourself is the best way to move forward.

I would say so, yes. I mean I guess times were different and mine wasn't plain sailing but I didn't have that growing up in the 80s and I wouldn't treat mine like that either.

Regardless of time there's right and wrong and some people are just that way inclined. However, it probably was normalized to a degree perhaps so they got away with it more than they would have now.