Long term relationships

[wtfwolf]

What would you take from the statement that he doesn't love you the way you love him. I'm more affectionate than him we have a promise of one cuddle a day from him but he doesn't need to.

Consider looking at 'Love Languages" - sounds like yours might be Touch and his something else.

For example mine is Touch and my partner is Acts of Service (as primary Love Languages).

Nothing wrong with them being different - as long as you understand what each others' are and you are prepared to compromise to meet the other's needs.

Just feel like because I have the higher sex drive he doesn't need to bother with making me feel loved it's destroying our relationship. I can say I love him and complement him when he gets a haircut ect but get nothing back. I've asked him what his love language is but he says he doesn't know?

If he says that he doesn't love you like you love him, that's not good, is it?

OK so less sex, less physical touch. Doe she do anything else loving? Looks after you? Brings you presents? Does nice things? Anything?

If I felt my relationship was healthy, I wouldn't be asking a forum to help me understand my partner; I'd be asking my partner to explain so that I could understand. If that didn't work, I'd be off. Communication and understanding are the base of a relationship, which is defined, in its very name, as pertaining to 'relating to each other'.

I’m in this situation with my dh (been together 15 years ish). He needs touch / sex / physical intimacy to feel love. I don’t need it at all, less so as I’ve got older. I don’t know how we solve it. It’s hard to meet half way when you’re the one who doesn’t want cuddles / physical touch because it’s your own body it affects. It’s not like if the other person is acts of service (which I am) and you can just make them a tea etc.

I'd wonder what the point of a relationship was if I was highly sexed and my partner was switched off physically.
Why do that to yourself?