Abusive Behaviour ?

[MariaL40]

Husband and I had a bit of an argument last night I ended up watching tv downstairs and he went to bed. About 11pm I went up to bed, my pillow was on the floor (charming) and when I climbed into bed he refused to give me any covers. I told him I was cold and he flat out refused saying he was comfy !!! so I ended up sleeping on the couch as I didn’t want it to escalate into a massive argument.
Over the years he has, switched the tv off ( he has control via his phone) when I’ve been watching something on more than one occasion , withheld car keys from me(squeezing my hand to get the keys )
in an argument in bed hit me in the back and thrown a glass of water over me.

yes abuse. Leave before he seriously hurts you, that's where its going

Yes, all of those things and especially being hit and having water thrown at you.

I've dealt with petty shit like the bed covers too, it's all to make you feel like shit, worthless and it grinds you down until you are a shell of a person.

There's a power imbalance here, he's in control, in power. A health relationship isn't like this, you don't treat someone you love and care about this way. He is above and you are below.

You should seek support, they do not change, it's how they are wired. They like this imbalance.

Yes im slowly coming to this conclusion I’m so scared of leaving and not being ok financially tbh.

Yes, it is abuse.

Yes, I'm sorry, this is abuse.

Understand you are worried about the future but what kind of future is it being treated that way?

Do you have children as well or?

Of course this is abuse. What a pathetic, horrible man. Please don't choose to keep living this way.