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Ex partner and kids

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singlemumhelp · 21/09/2023 16:29

I feel like a massive bitch but I can't help it and want to know if I am being irrational. So my ex partner was a stay at home dad and upped and left before lockdown. He had his vasectomy reversed and is now having a baby with this girl, they live with her mym and dad. He has two other kids who live a couple hours away; both now o autism list as is our son. Anyways I never realised the extent of his lies of not having his kids etc until after he left.

So he ha claiming this pregnancy is a bad pregnancy they are always in hospital etc. but I struggle with caring as one I don't know how genuine it all is but also he has 3 born children who need help and support and he can't take time off for them but and important appointments but he can for the unborn baby. He's now cancelled his weekend to have him as she's being induced the Tuesday.. but my argument is I had a c section the Tuesday and then had his kids and mum come down. So he should be able to. Then the following weekend he's due to have him he can't confirm he will have him either as more 'depends on baby' but he has kids who need their routine. He's switched jobs and not paid mainteamvw, then lies he earns no money but I went on his income tax account and see he had
It was just another lie to not pay us. He is already not paying her dad rent and falling behind with that etc. I am seriously considering that once he cancels he re next few weekends he cannot have access to our son unless he gets a court order and goes through that because I am
Sick and tired of him letting him down and me
Dealing with our son bwcquse he doesn't understand. I have been ringing for help to deal with meltdowns ans our son as I am
At breaking point and he doesn't every reply or help or claims he's at hospital
With the unborn baby: am I being unfair

OP posts:
Justcallmebebes · 21/09/2023 16:38

Nope. You're not being unfair in the slightest but he seems to have a track record of being a dead beat dad so I don't see why he should suddenly change.

I doubt he's cancelling due to his soon to be born child. He just can't be arsed with the kids he already has

What you can do about it is a different question

baileys6904 · 21/09/2023 19:06

As much as I understand the frustration, access is as much for your child as it is your ex. Pls don't mess with that

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