Guilt

[Makinghappiness5]

How do you deal with guilt when ending a marriage was the right choice for you but the other person won’t accept it?

I've just embraced the idea of being a bad guy - because the only other option was to stay miserable and continue to destroy myself just so the sole source of my misery would not be upset

thinking about being stuck for the rest of my life in that marriage always helped to curb any sense of guilt I may have been conditioned to have

That’s a really good way of thinking about it actually, and your right, staying would destroy me emotionally which is why I know that the decision was the right one for me, I just need to learn how to not feel awful for it!!

it takes time

hopefully you have people around you who understand your perspective. I remember being quite annoyed when some friends "sided" with my ex because he was apparently the wronged party 🙄

Its better than having an affair. Its honest and you can both move on with your lives, at least eventually.

Exactly that!! I feel like everyone sympathises with him as the ‘victim’ not knowing the circumstances (not that I’d ever tell them our business) and it makes me feel worse!

Other peoples emotions are not your responsibility. Your happiness is your responsibility and if you're not happy where you are you need to leave, simple as. You can feel sorry that the other person feels bad about it. Guilty is too far.

give them time and they will move on to something more interesting

I remember being constantly told just how sad my ex was - i had to remind few people that i was sad being with him so maaaybe they should leave me alone