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Was this assault or a misunderstanding *TW possibly*

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catdancingintheequinox · 20/09/2023 19:06

A few years ago I was kissing a man after being out with him for the day. We were in a secluded forest at the time. He put his hands around my lower area (over my clothes) and then in a letter of seconds he put his hand in my underwear an shoved his fingers inside me.

It really hurt and I was taken aback and froze, and then stopped what was happening completely. I asked him afterward not to do that again, but he said he thought I would like it because I felt 'ready' down there. He didn't seem to understand that can be uncomfortable for a woman even if that area is 'wet' and why wouldn't I like it.

He did apologise and said he would never do that again without asking me, but the whole thing made me feel really weird. I had a pain in my vagina for a few days after as I think there must have been an injury internally, and mentally I just felt strange about the whole thing.

The stories over the past week has made me think about this incident again, but I've always felt I had some blame because I was kissing him and we were getting quite hot and heavy I suppose. It probably seemed like I did want that.

OP posts:
Catoo · 20/09/2023 22:38

Sorry he did that to you OP.
It was a horrible and rough thing to do, and he did it without consent. You weren’t to blame.
💐x

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