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How to end it with someone vulnerable who has no one else?

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Cripp · 20/09/2023 14:43

My (ex) partner is a wonderful and troubled man. He's taught me to love like I never thought possible and to hurt like I never imagined.

He has let me down a great deal with life choices and over time, the damage done, as well as the lack of ability to learn from it, meant the damage to me became catastrophic.

I have seperated from him, and despite it breaking my heart, I don't feel able to continue in the relationship with someone who harms me emotionally and can't learn to do differently.

Mostly because I started to get really angry as resentment grew and that anger changed me into someone else. I have said mean things and slammed doors and I don't want to be angry with someone I love.

I am trying to get on, and cope with grieving (it's like losing a limb) but I'm consumed with worry and guilt.

I'm really all he has in the world (I mentioned he is troubled) and he's not coping well with me leaving. I haven't blocked him because I feel terrible, but he's not really accepting it's over.

I know I should block him but he's all alone in the world and I feel sick. He's my family.

I just need to know what to do.

OP posts:
MyHornCanPierceTheSky · 20/09/2023 14:47

You can't be his emotional crutch forever how would either of you move on?
He had a life before you didn't he? How did you meet?

BluebellsForest · 20/09/2023 14:50

Block him. You are not doing him any favours by remaining in contact and having unclear boundaries. He needs to have NC to move on as best he can. So do you.

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