I started chatting to someone I know from many years ago, we were at the same school and both moved since, so the chats have been about people we know, what they are doing now, and general chit chat. I remember him as quite a calm and gentle person. He is divorced (recently within the last 2/3 years), and in a casual way has mentioned a meet up. I was seriously contemplating it, but I haven't responded as yet.
As we do (well I do), I did a bit of a SM stalk and have found some posts and comments that the divorce was a bit of nasty one, his children don't seem to have much contact with him (they are older, in their 20s), but the thing that made me think that this may not be such a good idea, is that on his ex wife's posts, there are quite a lot of posts/memes about narcissistic behaviour. But there are also a lot of live, love, laugh type of things as well.
Having been through the mill in a bad marriage and then not a great rebound relationship, I know I am ultra high alert for red flags, and this has thrown me a bit now.
I know there are always two sides to a story, and I doubt many people in my age group get to where we are without some drama and trauma in their lives. Do I give him the benefit of the doubt and meet up, or just stop this in its tracks right now. He has not mentioned his ex to me at all, nor that he doesn't see his children. I only know this via SM really. But it did just make my stomach churn a little when I saw this.
I need an outsiders thoughts on this if you don't mind. I overthink terribly and am not sure if I am doing it again in this instance.